The Complexities of Loving a Woman

Women are complex creatures. We are multi-faceted; never one dimensional. We can be hard to figure out. Husbands can try for 50 years and may never fully understand every bit of our inner-being.

Men are far less complex. Most are taught from an early age to shield their feelings; to keep innermost thoughts private. They are taught to be strong, tough and to not wear their emotions on their sleeves. But when they find that one woman by which they can entrust with their heart, share their greatest fears and know they are loved unconditionally, they become much easier to understand.

My husband knows me like the back of his hand. Very little surprises him. But he may never fully understand all the different sides of me. Just yesterday morning, we began by watching a movie called The Vow. He knew within the first frame of the movie I would love it, would likely cry at some point before the end and it would be added to my collection of sappy movies I love.

As soon as the movie was over and I wiped away my tears, I switched over to watching the NBA. I love basketball. I sat watching the commentary and highlights of all the games from the day before. And from there I went to wash dishes while playfully dancing around and singing the commercial jingle from a local store called Toys R’ Us: “I don’t want to grow up, I’m a Toys R’ Us kid. There’s a million things at Toys R’ Us that I can play with. From bikes to trains to video games, it’s the biggest toy store there is. I don’t want to grow up cause’ maybe if I did, then I wouldn’t be a Toys R’ Us kid.”

Poor guy. I don’t even think that jingle’s been on the air for 20 years but I remember and love to sing it whenever it pops in my head. A few hours later, after the sun went down and the Sabbath concluded, my mindset did a 180-degree turn. The different side of me emerged. The business side of my personality is far more serious, rarely jokes and is all about work. At times, Keith can be standing right next to me, talking, and if I’m reading or responding to work-related emails, I may not even hear or see him. I’m still working on changing that.

I don’t know if you counted but those are four distinct personalities all bundled into one little ol’ me and that’s just the beginning of it. Finding the man who will love us -every aspect and nuances in our various personality traits- is no easy task. But once we find him (or better yet, he finds us) and he pledges to love, honor and cherish us til’ death do us part, we should hold on tight.

Women aren’t always easy to love and we’re never easy to figure out. We make them work to love us. But they do. And we’re blessed. So do your best to never forget that.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

Founder at Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).