The Art of Compromise

Keith loves a television show called 30 Rock. I must admit, I find it quite funny at times. But if it were up to him, this is how we would unwind on many nights after a long day at work. I, on the other hand, would be perfectly happy if we didn’t own a television at all.

On the Sabbath, I do nothing. And I mean nothing. Keith will wake up in the morning and before I even arise he would have washed both of our cars, worked in the garden, and done an endless number of things I consider work. I won’t even fold clothes on the Sabbath. I am a lazy bum on our one day off each week and I am not motivated in the least to do one thing.

Keith loves real estate. We moved 5 times in our first 4 years of marriage. There were great owner-occupied loans offered at the time and the only requirement is you had to live in the home for one year. So we would invest in a home, live it in for a year, and then rent it out once we’d moved again. I love stability. I’d be happy to move only once in a lifetime.

The list of differences between Keith and me is probably longer than the list of similarities. But I know what is important to Keith and he knows what is important to me and we make sure to give each other that. I fell in love with my husband and all his quirky ways. Why would I ever want to change that about him. He fell in love with me and God knows I have a billion quirks. But he just rolls with it.

There are alot of secrets to a loving and healthy marriage but somewhere at the top of that list must be learning to compromise. Your husband is different than you. And for good reason. Why would you want there to be two of you. A friend of mine says, “If two people are identical then one becomes unnecessary.”

Strive to be different yet compliment each other’s strengths. Love your husband just as he is and pray he will do the same. Compromise isn’t a position of weakness, it’s a position of strength. Only the strongest can put down their egos and learn the art of compromise.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).