Great Expectations

By Fawn Weaver on Tuesday, August 7, 2012

My former American –who now sounds fully British- friend, Elicia, I told you about yesterday had another keen observation when she and her fiance met us for dinner in London.  After she told us all about their wedding plans, we began chatting about post-wedding expectations.

She talked about how frustrating it was to hear all the negative comments and advice people have shared with her regarding marriage.  “It’s so irritating!” she said animatedly.  I understood exactly what she meant.  I went through this, as well as every other married person I know. 

Without even realizing it, Elicia began looking for some of the things people said would begin to happen.  Yep, I can relate to that, as well.  I did that momentarily in my early years of marriage before bopping myself upside the head (figuratively, of course).

We talked about how so many people have challenges in their initial years of marriage not because they’re destined for it but because they’re looking for it.  That’s the amazing thing about the mind.  If we look for something, we’ll find it.  “Seek and ye shall find,” is not just a scripture, it is an absolute truth in life. 

Those who look for, expect to have, and work toward joy and happiness, somehow always attain those things.  Those who look for problems in life likewise always attain those.  It seems to be an unspoken rule of life.  Those who look for health problems seem to always find them.  Those who expect to have money woes seem to consistently find their bank accounts short on funds. 

I’ve expected happiness in my marriage from the start and have looked for it.  Any challenges we’ve had along the way, we’ve looked at as learning lessons and stepping stones.  We don’t look at any of them as having slowed us down or taken us off course.  What about you? 

Question: Do you believe you will find what you seek and receive what you expect?  Do you seek happiness in your marriage?  Do you choose to receive it daily?

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