Is Marriage a Conspiracy? You Be the Judge.

This week, I spent alot of time visiting the sites of other marriage bloggers. I’ve been so busy the past year, it’s the first time I’ve had the opportunity to do that in quite a while. And I loved it! Seeing thousands (literally, thousands) of bloggers out there who are happily married and just wanting to talk about it makes me smile from the inside out. One particular blog post struck a chord with me the moment I read it.

Most of us watched (or at least read the headlines about) the Lance Armstrong interview with Oprah Winfrey last week. I must admit I was a bit saddened because I’ve always wanted to believe him. Mainly because I believed in his organization, LIVESTRONG. But while so many of us LIVESTRONG supporters sat in disappointment while Lance finally admitted to doping, the one thing that caught my attention was a comment he made about his wife. He didn’t say much, it was just in said passing, but I noticed because I never even knew he’d been married (and I usually pay attention to that).

So as I stumbled across a blog that was talking about it this week, I learned he’d previously been married but was now divorced. That made me curious. I immediately did what any trained researcher would do. I Googled it (you thought I was going to say something much cooler than this, didn’t you). In an article on Oprah.com from 2006, Lance’s ex-wife Kristin talked about what she learned from marriage and said something I found to be so profound:

What is the greatest conspiracy in modern history? Kristin says it’s not Watergate or the assassination of John F. Kennedy—it’s marriage.

“I think a conspiracy is anything that’s shrouded in silence,” she says. “I think women are awesome communicators. So why don’t women talk to women about what it’s going to take to not just make [marriage] work but make it great?”

That statement made me pause for a moment and then it made me smile knowing that’s all we do in this Club. We talk not only about what makes marriage work but what makes it great. Thousands of women from this club take to our Facebook community page every day and do nothing but talk about the beauty of marriage and how they make it great.

But I also realize there are so many Kristins in the world who may not know people like you or me; those of us who love being married and wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. So here’s what I propose. The next time someone asks you what it takes to make a marriage work, respond in this manner, “Rather than give you advice on how to make your marriage work, allow me to tell you how to make marriage great!” And then share with them every piece of advice you’ve got. Pull out the entire arsenal and don’t let them leave your presence until they’re as excited about marriage as you are.

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

106. No matter how busy I am at work, I still get giddy when I see his face pop up on my iPhone and his ring tone, Easy Silence, start playing.

107. He loves variety and yet he’ll still take me to the same restaurant every weekend (as he’s doing tonight) because I love their warm spinach salad.

108. He fixes everything around the house. I don’t know what a wrench is for let alone what to do with it.

109. He is incredibly wise but still looks to me for advice with every major (and some not so major) decisions he makes.

110. He’s got the sexiest eyes. Prrrr….

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Fawn Weaver

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).