Dreams Do Come True

**Guest Blog Post by Jocelyn White, founding member, Happy Wives Club**

My husband of almost seven years and I are thankful to have parents that are still married. My husband’s parents have been married over 50 years and my parents have been married over 30. We have seen their dedication through all the joys and challenges of marriage. One of the things we set out to learn at the beginning of our marriage was, how would we work through challenges together?

It is not uncommon to hear disgruntled spouses speak of “losing themselves” and their identity. Once the kids left, they didn’t know who they were anymore. We tried to figure out if there was a way we could somehow prevent that from happening, and how to create healthy habits before we had kids.

When our first anniversary came, we decided to ask one another what our dreams were, for our marriage, for our career, and as a couple. Out of that discussion began a tradition of yearly checking-in on one another’s dreams and vowing to do our best to make one another’s dreams come true. We committed to living life on purpose, not simply “going through” life, but committed to being intentional about the things we were passionate about, and the things we valued most.

That started with our wedding vows, in which we wrote our commitment to choose to delight and forgive one another. And delighting in one another’s dreams and the things that interested the other most became a springboard for our continuing adventure. After a few short years, I went from thinking movies were a waste of time, to becoming a movie buff because my husband was, from hating cold weather to snowboarding because my husband loves the mountains and skiing, and perhaps best of all, this working toward one another’s dreams set a foundation for us to find and pursue a common calling- to help end modern-day slavery and human trafficking in the US and abroad. Along the way, we’ve both had challenging days, but that’s where choosing to forgive and delight in one another, and giving each other a safe person to make mistakes in front of, has made all the difference. And it is all the more fulfilling when our dreams do come true.

Question: Do you and your husband share your goals and dreams with one another? Do you partner together to achieve them?

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

Founder at Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).