How I'm Becoming A Better Wife - Part II

How I’m Becoming A Better Wife – Part II

On Friday, I shared my humbling moment of asking Keith how he’d score me as a wife (against a perfect version of myself) on a scale of 1-to-10. But I’m so happy I asked the question so I knew where I was starting from before I wasted time working on areas that weren’t important to him.

While I was recently in Australia, I asked Keith to send me a list of the top 6 things he thought I could do to be a better wife and woman overall. Here was his list for me:

1. Greater outreach and relationship development with friends and family

2. Increase your willingness to try something new

3. Order food as it is presented on the menu

4. Think more before speaking – this has improved a great deal, but continued work isn’t bad

5. Be more flexible (e.g., not getting too locked into a particular routine)

6. Strive to be in the moment and not get zoned out – particularly with work

Prior to making this request of Keith, I did a self-assessment of the areas I could improve upon and created a list of 12 goals. My plan was to tackle one goal a month. That was until I received this list from Keith and realized I was completely off base.

Out of the 6 areas of improvement he identified as most important to him, only one was on my my list. And of the 12 goals on my list, only one did he consider important. This was a great lesson and reminder to me that if I want to be the best wife I can be, the best thing to do is just ask my husband how I can be better. No one knows what he needs and desires better than him so humbling myself to ask the question just saved me from wasting 12 months tackling issues that are non-issues to him.

Question: Have you ever asked your husband in what areas he thought you could improve as a wife and a woman overall? It’s a great exercise. At least, it was for me.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).