A Political Guide for Marriage

The title for this blog post is really “A Political Guide for Marriage: What To Do When You’re Red & He’s Blue,” but there simply wasn’t enough space. Keith and I were chatting with friends last night, a couple happily married more than 50 years, that we love and respect completely. They had a question for us, “So how did you vote on the death penalty initiative?” In California, there is an initiative on the ballot to ban the death penalty and change our state to the highest punishment being life without chance of parole.

Keith and I looked at each other and just laughed because we have very different views on this topic. I won’t tell you which one of us are on which side as this is not a political site and I have no desire to delve into political or social views. But I will say this, when Keith and I shared with them our respective views, our blood never boiled, we didn’t get worked up and we remained best friends throughout the conversation. I respect his opinion. He respects mine. But on this issue, we simply disagree.

Our friends were both leaning in the direction of the way I felt about this issue but told us they didn’t start off in agreement. ”After a little bit of fighting we’re now on the same page,” they joked. We know them well enough to know they may have disagreed but they certainly didn’t fight over political differences. The presidential election comes once every four years. Political pundits and media gain higher ratings by creating large divides between each side and adding fuel to the flame as often as possible. That is their job. But they have no jurisdiction in my home.

When the election is over, this country will still have a president (same or new), some folks will go to congress and some will be put out to pasture. Certain propositions will pass and many will fail. But what will not fail is my will, desire and determination to stay on the same page with my husband when it comes to our relationship and marriage. Disagreeing on political views is par for the course when you marry someone who is different from yourself and in our case, opposites certainly attracted.

QUESTION: Do you and your husband have the same political views? If not, what do you do to keep the peace when you have opposing views?

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

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Fawn Weaver

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).