Marriage Mondays: What is Your Real Passion? {& Link Up}

This week’s link up post is written by one of my favorite happy wives, Susan Merrill. She’s a contributor for this site and a pretty awesome chick, inside and out. Enjoy!

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In the beginning there is passion. Most relationships begin with passion. Passion can be defined as a strong sexual desire but it is also defined as intense emotion or enthusiasm. You can have intense emotion or enthusiasm for a lot of things but the majority of us would like to be most passionate about our husbands, our children, and our family.

We want to be passionate but here is the problem—passion can be drained. I believe that every woman starts with great passion for her husband and her children. Passion fills our mind with visions of the loving family we desire. But as time goes on we can get distracted from our passion; stuff just happens in life—work, children, illness, financial stress—and our passion springs a leak.

But it is in there somewhere.

So how do we find it? What can we do to ignite and refuel the passion we have lost?

For me, the motivation to stay passionate starts in my faulty heart—ironically, the symbolic dwelling place for passion and love. My heart has failed me on several occasions. At one point it stopped completely and at the age of seventeen I had a cardiac arrest. I was exposed to eternity for just a breath of time, but everything that I loved had time to flash through my mind. God and the people I love: that is all I saw.

When your heart stops, your mind will freeze where your heart left off—with those you love. I don’t really believe you can “love” stuff—houses, careers, money. You may desire it. You may think you love it, but that is your eye trying to trick your heart. When your heart stops, your eyes will close, and what you really love will be as clear as day. That is your real passion.

If your heart stopped what would flash before your eyes?

I hope your answer included your husband. Your husband should come before any other life on earth, even ahead of children. Make him the passion that he should be in this life, or would be if you knew this life was soon to end. Think of him with passion; cling to him with passion; love him passionately.

Susan Merrill
–Author of The Passionate Mom
–Director of iMOM.com
–Blogger at SusanMe.com
–Wife to Mark Merrill
–Mother of five

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Fawn Weaver

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).