Unexpected Blessings

By Fawn Weaver on Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Who would have thought when I began this club so much would come from it?  I certainly did not.  I’ve been rebellious from the time I was a child so it’s no surprise -as the L.A. Times columnist Sandy Banks pointed out to me- that I began this site as my way of bucking the system.

It was a simple refusal to join the chorus of voices insisting that marriage are brutally tough, meant to be a battlefield and were simple to walk away from for the most minor or offenses.  It was my way of telling Hollywood, in the loudest voice I could muster, there are happily married couples in the world and the portrayal of marriages on the big (and little) screens were not the full story.

The unabashed love for my husband and a somewhat naive exploration of the most important relationship in our lifetime, that we choose rather than being born into, caused me to dive head first into finding other women like me; those who enjoy being married and adore their husbands more than any other person in the world.

I knew many existed.  I didn’t know how many.  I still don’t know.  I will undoubtedly die without knowing the numerical answer to that question.  But I will live with the knowledge and satisfaction that I began a chorus of voices who refuse to be silenced and choose to not go along with the crowd. 

When I shared with you the best piece of marriage advice I ever received, I learned there were so many other wives out there who too felt beat up on when they chose to be affectionate in public with their spouse and not to allow other’s relational misery to dictate how they interpreted their own happiness.

When women from all over the world joined me to sign the pledge to change the conversation among our group of girlfriends.  To be the one woman in a chorus of wives complaining about the shortfallings of their husbands to share about the beautiful side of marriage.  To be the person who reminds everyone why they said ‘I do’ and what is wonderful about their husband (that they’re ignoring in that momentary complaint session).

When I began this club and invited three of my closest girlfriends, one of my sisters and my mother, to be founding members, I had no idea the amazing blessings that would occur as a result of this club.  I did not know I’d come to meet so many wonderful women.  I had no idea we’d be joined by wives in over 100 countries around the world.  There was absolutely no foresight that publishers from around the country would bid on a future book to be written, which at the time was not even a forethought.

The number of blessings I’ve received as a result of this club are innumerable.  And the greatest of all has been getting to know each of you.  Thank you.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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