Top 10 Facebook Best Practices (How My Fan Page Grew to 700,000)

By Fawn Weaver on Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Top 10 Facebook Best Practices

NOTE TO FACEBOOK REPS: If you happen to stumble across this post, which I’m sure you will, please don’t ding my Facebook page for sharing a “how-to” on building and engaging on your site.  Your algorithm is brilliant and I promise not to pretend to know it (especially, because you’re likely tweaking it as we speak).

For most of you who aren’t familiar with my Facebook page, it is aptly titled Happy Wives Club, and has officially crossed the 700,000 mark.

For those who visit this site often, you know I exclusively write posts related to shining a positive spotlight on marriage around the world.  

Never have I ventured into writing about things like social media or building a Platform and after this post, I will happily return to writing articles on my passion: Inspiring marriages to go from good to great and from great to extraordinary.

But after studying Facebook for more than 2,000 hours over the past several years, and being asked by more bloggers and authors than I can remember to share my tips on building and engaging a Facebook community, I decided it was time to write this post for them.

A couple weeks ago, I was speaking at the SITS Girls Bloggy Boot Camp in San Diego, and a professional blogger came up to me afterward pretty excited.

She said she’d heard me give tips on building a Facebook page at the same conference in Dallas months before and her page went from less than 30,000 likes to 117,000 in less than 3 months.  

She applied the principles I mentioned in my talk and wanted to thank me.  When she first approached me to share this news, I had to think about when I’d spoken about Facebook because I couldn’t recall giving a talk on that subject.  Then I remembered someone else at the conference was speaking on the topic and saw me in the room and said, “Fawn Weaver with Happy Wives Club is here and she probably knows more about Facebook than any of us,” and asked if I had anything to add.  

I casually spoke for less than 5 minutes on the topic and from that 5 minutes, this blogger more than quadrupled her community. 

There are three major social networks I use consistently: Pinterest, Twitter, and Facebook.  I am a believer in doing one or two very well rather than trying to figure them all out (learned that from Michael Hyatt’s book, Platform, which I highly, highly recommend for building and engaging a like-minded community).

Pinterest is amazing because I can upload a post written 4 months prior (like this one and this one) and have it go viral, being more than 1,000,000 times.  No other social network can, as consistently, take old content and make it new again.

I love Twitter because I have connected with some of the most amazing people through that social network. Many of which are highly influential and unlikely to have reached out to me any other way.  They followed me, I followed them back and then a relationship began being built.  I connect with bloggers most often through this social network and find their smart phone app to be the easiest, by far, to use.

That being said, my absolute favorite social network is Facebook. (Pinterest and Twitter reps: please don’t ding me for this…I love your networks too!!)  The reason Facebook is my favorite is that is how I connect daily with this beautiful community of more than 800,000 women.  I’m wordy (as you can tell by this post) so 160 characters or less is really tough for me to create a meaningful dialogue.

Yes, Facebook is constantly making algorithm changes that drive me a little batty at times because I have to spend two weeks trying to figure out what changes were made and how to adjust my posts to ensure the Happy Wives Club community sees them.  But it’s worth it.

Facebook is my number two driver of traffic and when I was releasing my book, Happy Wives Club, it was one of the main ways I shared it with the world.  My Facebook page has continued to grow at an average rate of between 1,000-2,000 a day for the past year.

Of course, there are anomalies when my Facebook page absolutely explodes, like the week Glennon Melton with Momastery.com answered on her blog a question I posed to her as a part of the blog tour for my book.  Instead of using my website, she included the link to my Facebook page and then Huffington Post picked up that blog post.  

On top of that, because of the launch of my book, #HappyWivesClub was the #1 hashtag trending worldwide on Twitter.  All this made for amazing growth.  More than 16,000/day were hitting “like” on my page and my engagement sky rocketed to 300%.  But as I said, this is an anomaly.  Most of the growth on my Facebook page has been good old fashioned hard work and a desire to build an engaged community.

Now, I know for most brands and bloggers, Facebook is the most frustrating social network.  I’ve heard every complaint under the sun.  Some of them are valid but many of them simply aren’t accurate.  What I’ve learned is if you just go with the flow and try to see each change as an improvement, you’ll find something great in each change (this is the same principal for a happy life, by the way ;) ).

Here are the most common complaints I’ve heard and my thoughts on each one:

COMPLAINT #1:  Facebook only shows my posts to a very small fraction of my community.  I worked hard to get those likes and they won’t even show my posts.

My Response: Thank you, Facebook!  It’s not that I don’t want to hear from the pages I “like” but take off your brand, author or blogger hat for a moment and look at it from your community’s viewpoint and see how it would feel if Facebook actually took your suggestion and showed all of the posts, from all the pages you “like,” to you.  

Take me for example.  I have 260 pages on Facebook that I “Like.”  If each of these pages put up 4 posts a day (which is MORE than enough, in my opinion, and I’ll tell you why later), I’d be looking at more than 1,000 posts a day from people who are not my “Friends.”  So when my friend in New York announced she was pregnant by posting the ultrasound picture on her Facebook page, I missed it because I was getting hundreds of posts in my timeline from the hundreds of bloggers and brands whose pages I follow.  

Yes, I absolutely LOVE sites like The Dating Divas and enjoy going to their Facebook page often, but do I really want to see each and every post they put out?  No.  Why?  Not because I don’t adore their posts but because I want to know my girlfriend in New York is three-months pregnant.  Does that make better sense when you take off your brand or blogger hat and put on my “fan” hat?  If not, give it some time…it will.    

COMPLAINT #2: Facebook forces me to pay for anyone to see my posts!

My Response: Put up better posts.  And stop putting up so many.  Listen, I won’t pretend to fully understand the Facebook algorithm. Those folks are way too smart (shout out to Sheryl Sandberg who was kind enough to contact me within a couple days of receiving a copy of my Happy Wives Club book and who, likely doesn’t know, my book and hers have been placed right above one another in Targets around the country for the past couple months) and my brain only attempts to partially keep up.

This time, take off your blogger or brand hat again and put on your “fan” hat.  If you, like me, have liked 260 pages and want to read certain things they post, don’t you want to read their best?  Seriously.

As a follower of many bloggers on Facebook, some of the stuff put up is just junk.  It’s not well thought out, regurgitated filler from another page.  Speaking of which, if you are taking graphics from other Facebook pages without giving credit, stop it.  Karma is no joke and if you want your page to grow, I assure you this is not the way to go about it.  

Someone took the time to create a graphic, and put a watermark on it or a URL, so leave it there.  Why?  Because that is what is going to also help you grow your page (more on that in my Best Practices section below).

Create content people want to see and more will see it.  If you put up a post and Facebook shows it to 50 people in your community and 25 “Like” it, guess what?  Facebook shows it to another 100.  And if 50 of those like it, Facebook shows it to another 500 and so on (these aren’t the exact numbers, because I don’t know Facebook’s algorithm, but you get the gist).

Here’s an example of the reach for a couple recent posts of mine:

How I got 700,000 likes on Facebook - post reach

 

As you’ll notice, the post on the left was seen by close to 2,000,000 people.  But you’ll also notice the post has a share-to-like ratio of more than 1-to-1.  This is important.  Not only how many people “Like” your post but how many think it worthy enough to share.

The post on the right was only liked by 365 people and shared by 23 people so Facebook only showed it to 50,000 people (which likely equates to less than 5% of my community size because some of those who saw this were friends of those who follow the Happy Wives Club community page).

If I were to guess how Facebook weights these things, posts that are “shared” would be considered more valuable than those simply “liked” and thus will be shown to more people.  At least, that has been my experience.

COMPLAINT #3: Facebook doesn’t refer traffic to my site.

My Response:  Again, put up better content.  Use images as often as possible, even when putting up blog posts that contain links.  Putting the blog link in your comments and then writing in the status update to “see link in the first comment” is hurting you.  I know you think you’re getting around Facebook’s algorithm with this “trick” but I assure you they are smarter than you.  They really are.  They’re smarter than all of us and the sooner we accept that the better.

For those accessing your Facebook page via their mobile (which is more than 50% of those who come to the Happy Wives Club site from Facebook), by not making the link easy to access, you have just lost hundreds, if not thousands, of people who would have been interested in reading your post had you made it easy for them to get to.

As I said, Facebook is my #2 referrer of traffic and there have been times when it has moved into the #1 position.  If you post great content, and people click through, Facebook will show that content to more people.  Promise.

Now, that we’ve talked about the top 3 complaints I hear.  Let’s move on to the top 3 mistakes I see most often.

MISTAKE #1: You determine you don’t have time to engage on your Facebook page so you outsource it.

My Response: Bad move.  Facebook’s calling card is authenticity.  People know when you’re being fake on that social network.  And they know when it is not you putting up the posts.  The Obamas have it right when they decided they would sign their posts “BO” and “MO” when it’s them so people know when they are engaging directly with them.

You’re not fooling anyone.  If you have someone else running your Facebook page…your community knows it.

I am the only person with access to my Facebook page.  I have no other admins.  If someone is engaging on Facebook as Happy Wives Club, it is me.  The reason is no one else can replicate my voice…or heart.

When I first began my Facebook page, I outsourced it to a social media company.  They were wonderful.  They really were.  My Facebook page jumped to 10,000 likes pretty quickly.  BUT, and it’s a big but, the engagement was in the toilet.  People were clicking “like” but could care less about the mission of Happy Wives Club.

So I took over the account and engagement rose.  Prior to Facebook’s recent algorithm change, which seems to have impacted pages with over 500,000 likes the most, my engagement was usually between 100-150%.  That made it one of the most engaged non-celebrity pages on the web.  Right now, my engagement is somewhere around 60% and it will probably take me a couple weeks to figure out what message Facebook was trying to send in this most recent algorithm change and responding to it in a way that gets my page back to 100% engagement.

Facebook is not free.  It will take your time and energy but is worth it if you truly want to engage with your community.  

If you choose to hire an outside firm to manage your Facebook account, still be engaged.  Give them the content to post on your page.  But people did not follow you or your brand to hear from an outside firm.  They followed YOU and you need to continue to deliver that if you are to not only grow your Facebook community but to increase your engagement.

MISTAKE #2: Using third-party apps to post on Facebook.  Wowzers!  Stop that.  I love BufferApp but not for Facebook.  I think Hootsuite is wonderful.  But again, not for Facebook.  If you aren’t posting live, make sure to use the Facebook scheduler if you want your posts to be seen.

I know, I know, it’s more convenient to post to all your social networks at one time.  But again, I ask you to take off your blogger or brand hat for a moment and this time put on the Facebook hat.  Why in the world would they want to show something on their site you haven’t even taken the time to post there?

Create content for Facebook that is specific to what your Facebook community wants and desires from you (which is oftentimes different than what your Twitter and Pinterest communities want from you).

MISTAKE #3: Not proactively looking for those on the Facebook site who your message might resonate with and should know you exist. 

There are few things in life where the motto, “If you build it they will come” is applicable.  In most cases, that is not the case with Facebook.  As of October 2013, there are more than 1.25 billion Facebook users.  If you want to reach them, I recommend three things:

1. If you have a website, make the Facebook button visible and at the top.  Don’t make it difficult for those who have already found you through other means to find you on Facebook (or your other social networks for that matter).  Many only include the “Share” buttons on their pages.  I highly recommend including the “follow” button in a visible place everywhere you are on the web that will allow it. (If you look at my side bar, you’ll see the button at the top and then again midway down on the sidebar using a different design.)

2. Create quote memes or attractive graphics with your URL at the bottom.    If I were to guess how most find the Happy Wives Club Facebook page, it is because of the quote memes I take hours to create each day (I’ve also recently hired someone to help me with this because art truly is not my gift so it takes me much longer).

There are tons of services out there that can help you create the best graphics.  When I first began, I created them all in Powerpoint because I didn’t know how to use Photoshop.  And then I found sites like PicMonkey that make it easy for folks like you and me to be able to create great graphics for free. 

When I’m traveling and don’t have time to create a new quote meme (and my new graphic designer doesn’t either), I have a handful of like-minded sites I visit with similar missions and I’ll share their graphics with my community.  This way, my community continues to be encouraged each day, even while I’m traveling.  

But whatever you do, do not rip them off of other sites and add your URL.  Bad juju.  If you do that, others will likely do that to you in return.  This is something I know first hand as people crop my URL off all the time and post the meme on their own pages.

To create great quote memes, consider getting a monthly account with an image source (or taking your own photos, something I’m not skilled at so I buy them).  I use ThinkStockPhotos.com which is a royalty-free images service by Getty Images.  Then find the right quotes, add your URL to the quote meme (preferably designed into the image – which is what I do now to protect my images from having the URL cropped off) and voila – you’re on your way to getting your URL shared around the web!

3. Set aside a Facebook budget to find new community members.  Of the 1,000 “likes” the Happy Wives Club currently gets on average a day, less than 30 of them are paid.  Yes, you read that right.  The percentage of organic likes on my page is 97%.  

How I got 700,000 likes on Facebook - Jan 2014 paid likes

I spend between $2-5/day on Facebook ads and have run the exact same ad since 2010.  It’s simple, not tricky (like using a Dr. Oz picture and pretending he has anything to do with your page), and tells women about this Club.  The ad simply invites them to join a club for women like them.  

Figuring out the ad thing takes some time and can be expensive initially.  The reason is you have to figure out where your core audience resides and that takes some time.  For me,  I created a separate ad campaign for every English speaking country around the world (I told you I’ve spent a lot of time on this).  I used the same ad but created a new campaign for each so I could see the performance of each one.

I quickly discovered I was spending more than $1/per like in the US and Canada and less than $.10 in the Philippines.  So I adjusted my ad spend for each of those countries.  I knew I had a worldwide message so it didn’t make sense to limit it to the US.  Even still, US residents account for more than half of my Facebook community because they have seen posts from my Facebook page on their friend’s pages, as well as Facebook recommendations.

I wish I could give you the best advice here but all I can say is test out a number of things.  I personally prefer PPC (pay-per-click) ads but PPI (pay-per-thousand-impressions) might make more sense for you.

Facebook has a lot of options.  Try them out but make sure to stay within a budget that allows you to maintain the campaign in the long term (not just the short term) because it might take someone seeing your ad and then seeing three of their “friends” share something from your page before a person actually clicks through.

People sharing my posts on their page and Facebook suggestions, not ads, is how most find my page.  Only a small number of people actually click through the ad (a part of that is the graphic is really bad because I created it before I had any idea how to design) but them seeing it and then seeing the name Happy Wives Club again and again on their friend’s pages cause intrigue.  They come to the Happy Wives Club page, see what we’re all about, and decide for themselves if they want to join.

How I got 700,000 likes on Facebook - Jan 2014 Likes Origin

I’ve seriously just written an eBook here (maybe I should have thrown this in a PDF and sold it for $1.99?  Oh well…) so I’ll just wrap this up with this: 

Top 10 Facebook Best Practices:

1. Engage yourself.  If you want to hire a social media person, go for it.  It’s your money.  But make sure you are continuing to engage and stay connected because people are following your voice and your heart, not a social media company.

2. Use graphics.  Lots and lots of them.  The rule of thumb is those on Facebook are incredibly visual.  You will get more likes and shares if you use more graphics.  And something as simple as image size makes a larger difference than you might think.

Stick to the best Facebook sizes.  Of course, the best sizes could change but as of today, the ideal size for quote memes is 403px X 403px.  This size displays well on mobile devices, as well as in your timeline.

When you upload links, my recommendation is not to use the image they pull from the site as it is inevitably reduced to 400px X 209px.  What I do is take whatever my post graphic size is (which is usually 403px X 605px – the latter number doesn’t matter as long as it is a vertical image and isn’t too much longer than 600px) and crop the portion of it that will make the best image at that reduced (400px X 209px) size.  Then I click on the hyperlink below it that says, “Upload Image.”

*NOTE: BufferApp gives different Facebook size recommendations than I use and they are much savvier than me so maybe try both sets of sizes and see which one works best for you.   

3. Don’t over post (I generally post 2-4 times a day at my peak times).  Just like TMI is not good in all other areas of life, it’s not good here either.  I spent months figuring out what time was best to post.  I would post on one day at 5am and then the next day at 5:30am and then the next day at 6am and so on.  I did this for two months to figure out what time the HWC community was engaging online.  

Lucky for you, Facebook now has a nifty tool that does this for you.  Just go to the Insights tab and then click on the Posts tab and you’ll see your best times to post there.  Now, you’ll still want to test out what times work within an hour of the times Facebook shows because I can tell you my most engaged time each day is about an hour off from what Facebook says.  But then again, they’re having to gather info for 1.6 billion pages so narrowing it down within an hour sounds good to me.

I found the 4 times when the majority of my community is online and engaging and I only post during those times.  This ensures all my posts get solid engagement and Facebook rewards you for that by showing your posts to more of your community because they know you are only posting what your community wants to see (no spam, please).

4. Figure out what your community wants most and give them nothing but that.  If I post something and it’s a miss with my community, it is unlikely you’ll ever see anything like that on my page again.  

Google Analytics is great for your site (love them!) but I wonder if you ever take the time to actually look at your Facebook Analytics?  This is going to, by far, give you the most accurate and detailed information.

How I got 700,000 likes on Facebook - Post Analytics

The above is a recent post of mine.  Here I can see how many people not only clicked “Like” or shared this post but I can also see how many clicked through.  This is one of the best ways to see what your community wants from you.

5. Do not copy my brand page.  I say this partly out of selfish reasons and partly because it simply won’t help.  Your community is different from mine and what yours wants and needs is different from mine.  You can look at mine and others with high engagement for inspiration, but ultimately, you need to figure out what your community shares most (because that is how others find you) and keep giving them things they’re inspired to share with their friends.

6. Put in the time or bow out.  Listen, if you don’t have the time to figure out what your Facebook community wants from you, then don’t even waste your time.  Some social networks are good for those with no time.  Facebook is not one of them.  Either make the time to engage or find a different social network that suits your needs.

7. Don’t be afraid to expand your community beyond North America.  I recently received an email from a Happy Wives Club member who was sharing my Facebook site with a friend.  That friend then told her about a YouTube video about buying “likes” and concluded because my top city was Quezon City, I “bought” the fans.  Nope.  But I do get a lot of “likes” from the Philippines.

As a matter of fact, because the Filipino community has been so engaged on the Happy Wives Club Facebook page and blog, I traveled to Makati City and Quezon City -both in the Manila metro area- to interview happily married couples for my book.  Time Magazine just named Makati City the “selfie” capital of the world because they post more selfies on Instagram than any other city.  

So if you have a message that will resonate with Filipinos worldwide, I’d actively look for a way to engage them.  I’ve found them to be the most grateful, wonderful, fun-loving people, who are also highly engaged on social media.  Not to mention, most of them have tons of friends and family members living in the US so when they share your posts on their Facebook pages, they are being shared to a large number of people on both sides of the Pacific.  

Top 10 Facebook Best Practices - breakdown of audience

 

Top 10 Facebook Best Practices - breakdown of audience engagement

Although I don’t target those in the US with ads, you will notice in the screenshot above that my number one country in “fans” and engagement is, by far, right here at home.  My top cities are all in the Philippines because they are densely populated and have tons of people on Facebook.  But as you can see, that doesn’t represent the full picture.  

By ignoring potential community members in other countries, you miss a great opportunity to introduce your mission/brand to not only them, but their friends and family in North America and Europe (the two areas with the highest Facebook ad prices).  

Keep in mind, this is not limited to the Philippines.  You might find your message resonates in Fiji or South Africa or many other places around the world.  Bottom line is the US is only a small portion of the rest of the world so if your message can reach beyond our borders…go for it!

8. Don’t buy Facebook “fans.”  They’re not real.  I got an email a couple days ago from someone who seemed very genuine and said she was listed by Forbes as one of the Top 50 social media folks in the world.  The odd thing is she was selling me on a company she suggested I use (and according to her email was not being paid to promote) to buy “real” Facebook likes.  She said she was suggesting it because she’d looked at my Facebook page and thought I could use it.

My response was simple.  Nearly 1K new likes a day, less than 30 of those are via ads…I think I’m doing okay.  But I have to tell you, her pitch was strong and if I’d received it several years ago, I probably would have been interested.

As a matter of fact, I tried buying a small number of fans back in 2010 -before Facebook explicitly banned the practice- and realized very quickly that it’s no way to build an engaged community.  Although the company claimed these were all “real” fans with genuine interest in my page, when I looked at the makeup of those who actually clicked “like” on my page, almost all of them were men from the Middle East. I’d say it’s pretty unlikely any of those guys had a “genuine interest” in the Happy Wives Club.  

I learned then the only way to do it is through intentional learning and serving, and for the 4 years that followed, I’ve done just that. 

9. Facebook parties are great…but not for engagement.  Okay, so here’s the deal with the Facebook parties where you partner up with a ton of other bloggers and those on your page “like” their pages and vice versa.  I tried this once a couple years ago and my experience led me not to participate in one again.

The reason is my engagement dropped tremendously.  Now, my posts were being shown to people who could care less and only followed me because of the prize we were promoting.  I gained 20,000 or so followers, lost about 30% but my engagement went into the toilet.  I also began receiving rude comments for the first time on the page…ever.

We’re a positive community, no judgement at all, so snarky comments are very rare.  But immediately following the one Facebook push (aka party) I participated in, my engagement dropped and the number of rude comments went through the roof.

That being said, I know many who have found success with these Facebook pushes, but for the most part, those who participate in them see their engagement percentage dramatically decrease in the weeks that follow.

10. Recognize you have a community not “fans.”  Unless you’re a celebrity, it’s unlikely people are following you just to know about you.  Build a community.  Take the time to get to know those in it.  Find out why they are following you and how you can serve them.

Facebook is a very powerful tool and if you use it to be of service to others, you will find it is incredibly rewarding for you and for those within your community. 

That’s all folks!  I just wrote this post off the top of my head, without writing anything down first, so I’m sure I’m missing a few key points.  When I sat down to write this, I had no idea it would be so long.  Sorry about that…  

As time goes on, if I think of things I forgot to add here or if Facebook makes any major algorithm changes that impact my engagement or page growth, I’ll put it in a section below entitled “Update” so you can see it.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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(Quick plug: I traveled around the world in search of the universal secret of a happy marriage, and all the amazing details are in my USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling book, Happy Wives Club.  The executive editor of Brides Magazine described it this way, “It’s like Eat, Pray, Love but not down on marriage!” I think I like that description.)

**UPDATE**

1. Of course, the day after I post this, the number of people “talking about” my Facebook page dropped to 290,000 – the lowest percentage in as long as I can remember.  It’s a great thing this happened though because it reminded me of a best practice I forgot to include: Stay Calm…and just keep serving your community.  With every Facebook algorithm change -or times of crazy busyness when you can’t engage like usual- you are likely to see a significant drop.  No worries!  It’s only the engagement for that week and you always have the current week to return your engagement to normal levels (exactly what I’ll be working on the next couple weeks).

Update on my “talking about this” stat.  As soon as I posted the above update, I went to my Facebook page and clicked on Insights > Posts to see if the peak times and days of the week my community is engaging had changed.  And guess what?  It had.  So I adjusted the times I posted and within 36 hours, my “talking about this” jumped up to 399,759 people.  Within a week, that number had increased to 682,200. 

Facebook engagement overview - Top 10 Facebook best practices

Facebook Talking About This Stat - Top 10 Facebook Best Practices

 

Again, the only significant change I made to achieve the above results was adjusting the post times to match the newly listed times in my Insights>Post page.  The engagement pattern of my community changed and so I needed to quickly adapt.   On Facebook, the smallest tweaks can make a major difference.

2. Here’s a tip I forgot in the post: I don’t recommend status updates when posting quote memes or graphics (unless you’re introducing a post link).  The reason is you might get alot of “likes” but will likely lose some shares.  For instance, if I post a quote meme that says, “I love my life as your wife,” and write in the status update, “Love you, sweetheart,” all those who call their husbands, “Honey” or “Baby” or whatever pet name they choose will not share that graphic.  You’ve just personalized it for you…and taken away their ability to personalize it for themselves.  Test this out.  All those I know who have made this switch have seen their “shares” increase tremendously.

3. I have a feeling I’m going to be adding a lot of updates in the days ahead.  Just thought about another important point.  ENGAGE with your community.  Don’t just set up posts through a scheduler and then never go back to engage with those who posts comments.  Even if you only engage with a few people per post, every time I respond to someone in my Facebook community, they get a notification that says, “Happy Wives Club likes your comment” or “Happy Wives Club just responded to your comment.”  It lets them know that they matter and are actually engaging with someone real.

4. I mentioned in my post to only focus on one or two social networks.  But I failed to mention the two I focus on personally: Facebook and Twitter.  Both my Pinterest and Instagram accounts are managed by other people in this community (just started using the Instagram one a couple weeks ago).  The reason is those two social networks don’t require a personal “voice.”  So I could turn those over to people with a passion for marriage and who can simply share posts from the blog and Facebook page.

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  • Kristen Grills

    The new website looks great! (and who doesn’t love a good giveaway, right?!) Praying that all of this excitement generates excitement for marriages above all else. Way to do, Fawn (and team).

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn

      What a sweetheart you are, Kristen! Still tweaking the site…we definitely went live before everything was done (but such is life :) ). Appreciate you hanging with us today.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank you so much, Kristen!! Thought I responded to this earlier…but alas I didn’t.

  • Jeanne

    Do we enter on each blog or just one time? Thanks for the wonderful giveaway! My husband and I need to get away together!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Hi Jeanne, Just one time is perfect :) . And it’s our pleasure!

  • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

    Well, I haven’t “officially” joined until now. Now I’m a part of the club—officially! ;)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn

      Yeah!! I can’t believe you hadn’t joined until today, Christin! Well, welcome officially to the club :) .

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      I can’t believe you never joined officially, Christin! Well, welcome to the club (better late than never :) ).

  • http://www.facebook.com/AnjieYoung Anjanette Young

    I remember the beginning Fawn and I have always loved what you are doing. Happy Wives Club is a wonderful site. Anjanette @MommaYoung, celebrating year 24 this December…

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      I remember when you first began following and encouraging us. Thank you so much, Anjanette! It’s women like you that kept us going even when we got tired…

  • Lori@encourageyourspouse

    How awesome – thanks for the opportunity to link up and connect. It great to also be able to leave a comment here! ;-)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Lori! Isn’t it great to finally have comments?! That was one of the main reasons we moved from Squarespace to WordPress was because the commenting system on Squarespace is so bad (which is why we didn’t use them). Thanks for visiting, and linking up, and commenting. You rock, Lori!

  • http://momstheword--livingforhim.blogspot.com/ Nan

    My husband is a pastor. He was very shy as a child. He doesn’t have to force himself to care about people or love people, he loves them just like you do. But he, too, has to work at being more outgoing and talking with people, so he can get exhausted too. Fortunately he’s interesed in people just as you are so that helps!

    I am more outgoing than he is so I think we make a great team, lol! :)

    Thank you for the giveaway (Disney all the way,baby!!!!) and thank you for hosting toay! I am so glad I got your email because I didn’t know you’d moved it. So I went ahead and linked up Have a lovely day, my friend! :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Nan! So happy I emailed you, as well. Yes, I’m alot like your husband and I’m grateful I had a husband who said, “Hey Babe, do you know how you’re perceived when you shrink off into a corner in the middle of an event?” I never even realized (or thought about) that. But once he said it, I began working on it because it’s so important to me that people see nothing but love from all I say and do. Sounds like that’s your husband’s story, as well… Thanks for linking up, Nan.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kellywsmith Kelly Smith

    Love your heart, Fawn! And I am so thankful to have a hubby who’s a blessing too. I went through a long battle with health issues and so I can relate to what you’re saying about making some substantial changes to my diet as a result. I just want to encourage you that you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel getting soy out of your diet (as well as all those highly processed foods you mentioned) and moving toward more healthy whole foods. What a blessing that you have a great encourager right there with you as you start this journey! And there are so many real foodies out there more than willing to help you (smile)!! xoxo, Kelly

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Kelly! I am certainly encouraged. I told Keith, “Well, you’ll be married to a lean and fit woman your entire life because I can’t eat anything!” LOL! Much love.

  • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

    My sympathies on your allergies. My Keith has had them the whole time we’ve been together (non-food, recently lactose intolerant), and about a year ago he was diagnosed as highly gluten intolerant. It’s been a big change in the house, but he’s been a good sport about it, especially since he has felt so much better since going gluten free.

    My Keith has made me laugh innumerable times in our marriage. Although I can’t recount a particular one off the top of my head, he has saved my sanity often with his caring and quick wit.

    Halleluja for hubbies!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Kim, your hubby’s name is Keith too?! I now know three bloggers who adore their Keith’s: you, Sheila Wray Gregoire (Love, Honor & Vacuum) and Courtney Joseph (Women Living Well). What are the chances? On a side note, I was praying I didn’t have a gluten allergy. That would have made it SOOOO tricky.

      • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

        Ha ha! We shall be the mini Happy Wives of Keith Club! :-)

  • Andrea W

    Happy Friday! I l like old school….Anne Meara & Ben Stiller…married since 1954!! I love them!! Of course, Denzel & Pauletta Washington.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Since 1954? How old is Ben Stiller?!? Are you sure?

  • http://twitter.com/ColleenLeslieT Colleen Thompson

    Hey Fawn and Mai,

    First, I want to thank you for leaving me a message that this link up had moved. I have missed a couple of weeks and wouldn’t have found you back so fast if not for your effort to let me know.

    Secondly, I’m wondering if there is a way that I can fix the pic that I used for my link today for the Monday Morning Bragging Wife. If not, I won’t die. But it’s a little low-res, no? ;)

    Thanks again for the great work you do at Happy Wives Club.

    Colleen

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Yeah! So happy. Send me the pic you want to use to fawn(at)happywivesclub(dot)com and I’ll get it changed out for you :) .

  • http://twitter.com/ColleenLeslieT Colleen Thompson

    Great words of wisdom about taking ‘me time’, Fawn. I assure you that I wholeheartedly agree! When I am consistent about taking time to for myself, I notice a VAST difference in how my days go.

    With our family schedule, I find the only me time I can carve out is before everyone gets up. 6 a.m. is the magic hour. And, despite often being out late for work – like 1 a.m. – I’m seeing that my days still go better when I get up early to pray, ponder, read my Bible and read whatever leadership, relationship or people skills book is on the lesson plan at the moment.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank you, Colleen! Today was the first day I slooooowed down and set aside some “me” time and it’s made a world of difference. I decided today I wouldn’t talk about how busy I am or how there isn’t enough time in the day and would simply focus on maximizing the time I’ve got and I can’t even begin to tell you how all of a sudden I have enough time in the day to do what needs to be done. Our words are so powerful (and so is “me” time :) ).

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Colleen, have you already read the book?! You are naming the chapters — ponder and pray!

  • Lori @ Encourage Your Spouse

    What’s the latest lesson I’ve been learning about prioritizing life? That I MUST make time to nurture friendships. The days can just slip by, and the “let’s get coffee together someday” never happens, unless it’s on the calendar. Having positive friendships also enriches my relationship with my hubby because everything I learn and experience I can bring back to our marriage so he can benefit also.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Sounds like you and I are learning the same lesson. Isn’t it amazing how “let’s get coffee someday” turns into 3 months later. So sad. As you learn how to carve out the time, please share your success with me :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      In the book I have many confessions of mistakes and one of them was not doing this very thing! Last night I had many friends over to honor the way they have impacted my parenting with wisdom and supported me during the writing of the book–friends are a treasure.

  • Andrea W.

    Happy Wednesday! I’m happy I learned this lesson years ago! Open to learning more.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks for stopping by, Andrea! So happy you learned this lesson years ago too. Years ahead of me :) .

  • Cam | Bibs & Baubles

    This post was so on time. My mother just told me this week that if I’m too busy to do what I need to do, I’m busier than God ever intended for me to be. It struck a cord because between our children and our careers, my husband and I can be like two ships passing in the night some days. I’m a believer in the power of words too. This whole “busy” thing can, scratch that WILL be fixed. Power in words, indeed.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Sounds like you are in the same place I was at on Monday. The good news is just that simply mindset change and the words to follow it can change everything – in an instant! So tell your Mom, you’ve fixed it :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      I am smiling with your choice of words “two ships that pass in the night” Our pre-marital counselor used those very words to describe us years ago! It was a big warning to us that we were both busy types and need to focus on each other.

  • GreatPeaceAcademy

    I can’t say that I’ve thought of it in those terms. My spouse of 20 years and I try to connect daily, touch base if you will. We try to weekly have a discussion about what’s going on, we mostly talk in the car while travelling here and there. We do however, carve out once a month date time. Without Fail. It’s important to focus on just us.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      That consistency -even once a month- makes a world of difference, doesn’t it?

  • http://twitter.com/ButterflySmilez Terra Newsome

    As a busy mother of 5 (ages 17,15,14.13 and 11) and wife of 18.5yrs, it takes EFFORT to keep our marriage flowing. In the busier years as a SAHM and a wife of an Army solider, my time was consumed by the kids yet as Christ Jesus being our foundation, we made what time we had possible and kept our priorities focused while prayerful throughout our journey as a couple and parents. Now that the kids are older, we talk often throughout the day and schedule lunch and/or weekend dates. I really look forward to these times…. even if it’s just mini phone calls from him while he’s at work just to say “Hello” or a text saying “I love you”. My husband still gives me butterflies!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Oh, the mini phone calls and texts are the best, aren’t they? Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to post a comment, Terra!

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Your love for your husband is precious! And small points of communication are a gift of technology today–it is so easy just to text and call anytime, anywhere. We have a family group text and pictures and words pop up all day for the all of us to see–fun!

  • Andrea W.

    Happy Wednesday! Yes I have heard this myth, but REFUSE to buy n2 it! Hubbie won’t allow it! Thank goodness 4 that! Small love gestures become BIG rewards! As Florida Evans usta say about James……HAVE MERCY! =)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Good for hubby! Yes, those small gestures reap HUGE rewards!

  • Whitney

    I’ve only been married a couple years…and we have a toddler so it really makes it difficult to focus on each other or even have an adult conversation. But we have become really involved with our church and we attend a young married couples Sunday School class where EVERYONE has the same problems that we do. It has truly been a blessing to find a church family! It really does make a difference when something is on your mind, or you have an argument and every couple in the room agrees or laughs because they feel the same way! I guess what I’m getting at is that the small, petty problems that you are having in your marriage are the same ones everyone else has so don’t sweat the small stuff!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Yes, yes, yes! Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      It is hard because small stuff can become habits but yes, you have to let it go and focus on what is important. And so wise of you to find a Sunday School group that you can be transparent with as a compass for what is “normal” in marriage. I am sure it really helps maintain realistic expectations!

  • http://twitter.com/TheMommyMess Adrienne Bolton

    Great ideas!!! I’m pinning! I found your blog from Kim at Too Darn Happy. ;)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Love, Kim!! Thank you so much, Adrienne!

  • Shannah at Just Us Four

    The new site looks awesome and I love the ability to comment!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Yeah! And I really love the ability to comment back to you :) .

  • http://momstheword--livingforhim.blogspot.com/ Nan

    Great post! Unfortunately it’s easy for hubby to get lost in the kid shuffle and the relationship put on the back burner until the kids are grown if we aren’t careful to nourish and guard it. And if we don’t guard it, what relationship wll we have left?

    Thanks for hosting today! :)

    • http://momstheword--livingforhim.blogspot.com/ Nan

      O.k so I feel the need to tell you that I DO know how to spell “will.” Lol! ;)

      • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

        LOL! Too Funny :) .

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Not much of a relationship at all, Nan. You are so right!

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Nan, I have done this exact thing thousands of times — Mark is much better at maintaining the focus on our marriage.

  • Lucille Williams

    Fawn, I love this! Amen & Amen! The best line for me was “fat bank account and a skinny relationship.” That said it all! Great post!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Lucille! Did you already link up? I look forward to reading your post :) .

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    I agree 100%, Fawn! I think this is a perfect way to say it and demonstrate it. In fact, I’m going to take your lead and “lean in on my husband” now! Thanks for the encouragement.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Love this! Thanks for stopping my, Beth, and taking the time to comment.

  • Ferly Tangonan

    This is a great post and I totally agree with you. This morning I gave up probably an hour of sleep to make my husband a sandwich to take with him to work. I did this not because he asked me to {he didn’t}, but I wanted to show adoration to my husband for getting up early everyday and taking the full responsibility of providing for our family. I could tell he appreciated me being up with him. It was worth losing an hour of sleep today.

    ~ Ferly
    Gifts We Use {to grow, love and serve}

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Sounds like the best thing you could have possibly done with that hour. Good on you! <3

  • Donna

    I love the post on the benefits of making love a priority. I understand with jobs & small kids it’s hard to juggle the time & exhaustion element. I find by talking to friends, most women have NO DESIRE ! I find that sad since God gave us the GIFT of sex ! It was his idea & I find it the best gift ever ! Yes, my sons are now grown & I am now married 14 years to the MAN of my dreams in every category ! So intimacy is extremely important to us & we know what we don’t want in our relationship based on past mistakes with our exes. We never look at sex as a chore EVER ! We view it as a pleasure & time to bond & connect. My husband has worked overseas the past 5 years & we are only together twice a year for 30 days. THAT will definitely give you a new perspective. Our bucket list once he is home for good is 1 YEAR ( 365 days) of love making.
    And we know with our strong love & commitment it’s 100% possible ! For women who have lost their libido, they need to get it back for the sake of their marriage & partner ! God says we are to submit to our husbands. What greater gift to give them, then our love & intimacy in the bedroom.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Donna, for your response! As Sheila mentioned here, enjoying the process of making love is so beneficial for both husband and wife and exploring with your partner what feels best and when can be tricky (if only we could all take classes on this :) ). Over the years, our bodies change so much and keeping up with that can be tough. But those who make it a priority can enjoy it for as long as our bodies will allow it (woohoo to that!!).

  • http://www.joleneengle.org/ Jolene @ The Alabaster Jar

    I’m my man’s biggest cheerleader and I’m glad for that high position of honor! We’re one flesh and we’re constantly encouraging one another. Thanks for sharing, Trisha!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      I hear you, Jolene! I’m the exact same way. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts. Appreciate you!

  • Nan

    For some reason it won’t let me leave a comment on your individual post but it WILL let me leave one here!
    Awesome post. Over the years I have (hopefully) learned how to allow my husband to talk without shutting him down with my initial “That’s impossible” or “You can’t be serious” reaction, lol!
    I remember before he became a pastor he came to me stating that he wanted to go into the ministry. He was terrified of my reaction because when we were dating I stated that I never wanted to be a pastor’s wife. Never. Did I mention never? ;)
    God speaks through our husbands and definitely though mine because sometimes I am so caught up in details and deadlines and cleaning house, etc., that I forget to have fun and I forget to dream a little!
    Thanks so much for your post, Tricia, and for hosting today, Fawn!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Nan! I tried to reply to this last night but our Disqus system went a little whacko for a few hours. My programmer is working on figuring out this issue. Thanks for alerting me!

  • Tyson Cooper

    This is great advice Tricia, thank you for sharing. I agree entirely. As my wife supports me in achieving my dreams my desire to support and encourage her in her dreams increases dramatically. And you’re right, if she questions or doubts an idea that I have immediately I begin to focus on what is wrong with it and how it will probably fail. Thankfully, I have a fantastic wife who is probably far more supportive than she should be. :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Sounds like you have an awesome wife, Tyson…and you’re incredibly grateful. That’s a good thing for sure!

  • Tonya@ The Dieter’s Academy

    This the best marriage advice I have heard in a long time! I think more marriages would be successful if spouses focused on positive uplifting attitudes and actions, as opposed to zooming in on the little things that aren’t going as planned. I love the idea of dreaming and supporting our spouses in their dreams. Like Tricia said – when we do, everybody wins!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Absolutely! Everybody wins.

  • Ferly Tangonan

    I love your perspective on this! I have learned that every interruption is divine, so seeing them from that point of view helps to find the immediate beauty in an otherwise inconvenient situation. Great post!

    ~ Ferly
    Gifts We Use {to grow, love and serve}

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      So true, Ferly! It’s all divine.

  • LeAnn Williams

    I loved this one. You have a great perspective. You also have a loyal dedicated husband who is like mine; he will go to work until he feels like dieing. I love thought the thoughts on serving others and your husband should be the on the top of that list.
    Blessings!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      You are absolutely right! Hubby should be at the top of the list. <3

  • Shannah at Just Us Four

    I think this is so important to remember. It is way to easy to focus on the inconvenience or downside to an unexpected change. Great points on how important it is to keep perspective.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Shannah! And thank you for taking the time to comment :) .

  • jn107691

    I just found your site. Thank you for all the input you provide. I have been trying to be a good wife to my husband. He also is self sufficient. I like the suggestions here. We usually only hear and see the negative. I have tried to be a positive impact with my husband but it difficult at times. It is so nice to see positive thinking about being married, especially after 25 years.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank you so much for your comment! You are so right that we almost see, hear and breathe negativity when it comes to marriage. But you and I (and the women of this club) can change that :) .

  • Tyson Cooper

    Fawn you are so right. Happiness is a choice and thankfully it is not governed by genetics. My grandparents divorced but my parents are happily married and will be celebrating their 30th anniversary this June. However, my sister and her husband really struggle. I believe it is important to include God in our marriages and have found that as my wife and I do it is easier to be happy. We are grateful each day for a strong marriage and we focus on ensuring it stays strong.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Yes! And you hit the nail on the head. Even with God as the center (as He is in our marriage, as well), happiness is impossible without genuine gratitude.

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    You were right, Fawn. For some reason, using the Google Chrome browser allows me to see and comment directly on your post. I’ll have to remember that next time. :)

    And I love this idea. I use my notepad app for a lot of things and this is a great list to create and continue to add to. I love having the ease of my phone (which is almost always with me) to record important things that I need to remember. And I’m certain that remembering all throughout my day just how my husband has blessed me will improve my attitude and gratitude toward him. Thanks so much!

    • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

      Welp, i take that back. It appears to have moved me to your comment policy page. Oh well. I hope it encourages you anyway!

      • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

        You’re not on the Comments Policy page, Beth. You’re on the home page :) . The comments policy is always written along the top. My programmer is now trying all the different browsers to see which are having the problem and we’re crossing our fingers that Disqus already knows and is working on it.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Beth! It was amazing how many things I began to see when I took the time to look for them. I hope this exercise will really touch you and your marriage. <3

  • paula

    I have been learning this lesson lately as well. Contentment does not mean that you don’t want anything else! it just means you are choosing to be happy where you are. There is a lot that I want (and that would make my life SO much easier) but I’m learning to be truly happy. :)

    Thanks for sharing this great reminder that is applicable to all parts of life! :)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn Weaver

      Ditto, Paula! I know exactly what you mean :) .

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Paula. You are so right. It’s definitely applicable to all parts of life.

  • Debi – The Romantic Vineyard

    Fawn, I love this!!! Congratulations on your first decade of marriage. And what a great memory you made. You made a beautiful bride!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank you, Debi! I truly appreciate it.

  • Elizabeth Ours

    Wow! So sweet! You are So BEAUTIFUL! What a gorgeous wedding dress! Thanks for letting us have a peek into your special day together!! And Happy Anniversary!!!! ;)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank you, Elizabeth!

  • http://www.facebook.com/bridget.cook.98 Bridget Cook

    I loved the surprise vow renewal for guests! All I could do was smile as I was reading and thinking about your guest’s reactions. You two look great together-beautiful and oh so sneaky :P

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      I wish I could have seen the guest’s reaction too! I hear it was pretty fantastic :) .

  • Andrea W.

    WOW!! BREATHTAKING!!! HAPPY 10 YEARS 2GETHER and many, many, upon many more years 2gether!! praise JESUS!!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Andrea!

  • Cindy – Marriage Missions

    What a beautiful testimony of love! We’re so blessed to be able to celebrate with you on a decade of love and promises well-kept! May God continue to shine His blessing upon your marriage as you join with Him in being His colleagues in displaying and giving love to each other. We celebrate with you! May your love and commitment cause others to see the Love of Christ in action so many will want to know our God better.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Oh, thank you Cindy!

  • paula

    congrats on your renewal!!! :) looks like a beautiful day <3

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank you so much, Paula!

  • GreatPeaceAcademy

    Congratulations! What an awesome way to spend your anniversary! I love that you surprised your guests because it made it more about the two of you sharing your love than about their expectations for the day. :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      You can say that again! My hubby and I were just talking about that. Others expectations will completely rob you of your happiness if you don’t guard yourself from that. And this is the very reason we decided to do it this way (and SO happy we did :) ).

  • http://twitter.com/RhiannonSTR Rhiannon Strobel

    Absolutely happiness and love are a choice that can be made every single day! I love your empowering, positive and loving posts! Thank you again :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thanks, Rhiannon! Comments like yours encourage us so much.

  • Andrea W

    Happy Friday! Printing the list right now! This is exciting! Have a fun & safe Memorial Day weekend!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Same to you, Andrea!

  • Lori

    Thanks so much for sharing A Year of Questions with your gals. Blessings, Lori <

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Thank YOU! This is so wonderful.

  • ArlenePellicane

    Thank you so much Lori & Fawn! Printing the questions now – perfect for the summertime at meals! :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Yeah! So happy you like it :) .

  • Hannah B

    THANK YOU! I’ve been wanting to make something like this!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Yeah!! So happy you’re going to benefit from this, Hannah.

  • http://twitter.com/RhiannonSTR Rhiannon Strobel

    I LOVE this: “Never argue over things that will not matter in the last five minutes of your life”

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Isn’t that a great reminder, Rhiannon!

  • Lauren Lawson

    This seriously made me tear up when i read it yesterday. I’m so sorry for your families loss. I LOVE that your mom has that peace to carry with her… words have power.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Clubâ„¢

      Lauren, you are such a sweetheart. So honored you take the time to read HWC and I love it every time you link up so I can enjoy Aunt La La!

  • SistersRaiseSisters

    This is our first time to join the link up! Excited to be here and share our post about Love Languages. Found you through Moms the Word. – Penny Lane @ SistersRaisingSisters.com

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Awesome. Looking forward to reading your post!

  • Still DatingMySpouse

    I don’t know how I been missing Marriage Monday…..Thanks for allowing me to link up my blog post! Look forward to visiting the blogs!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Yeah! So happy you found us again for Marriage Mondays :) .

  • Angie @ The Dating Divas

    Happy Monday! Have a great week and thank you for hosting! ~ Angie @ The Dating Divas

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Thanks for always joining us, Angie! We find so many fabulous tips over at TheDatingDivas.com!

  • Kimberly Green

    We take advantage of any Lunch date opportunities while kids are at school. No babysitter- cheaper menu.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Oh, that’s a great idea, Kimberly! That is definitely one to add to this list.

  • Lisa

    Just found this blog! Looks great! I love the Date Nights Cheap. We all need date nights, and we’re all strapped, so this post is excellent!

    By the way, I accidentally wrote the title of my blog as my name, instead of 8 Ways to be Your Husband’s Best Friend! Oops…

    Thanks again for hosting!

    Lisa
    http://Www.thecourageousjourney.com

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      So nice to meet you, Lisa! Happy you found us :) . No worries on your link up title. We can get that changed for you :) .

  • Andrea W

    Happy June & Happy Monday!!! At my church,, I have signed my hubbie & I up 4 an all day tourist excursion! It is to a famous tourist spot. I am excited because 4 the low cost of $50, we can spend the entire day together, ride the bus as someone else does the driving, & enjoy each others company! The $50 cost would be gas alone if we were driving to the same spot. Snacks R included N the cost of the all day excursion!!! I can’t wait for my date-DAY with hubbie!!! N-joy HIS day!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      That sounds like a pretty amazing deal! Is this something your church put together or something through a tour company that is partnering with your church?

      • Andrea W.

        The church put the trip together. We will arrive to the church to catch the bus at 6:45 a.m. & return to the church @ 6:30 p.m. Of course, I will take X-tra food so hubbie & I can have an outdoor picnic & just enjoy the grounds as much as we can. I may take my 365 questions from your previous posting & discuss some of the questions thruout the day! We actually discussed 3 of the questions last nite. Pretty good discussion! Keep up the tremendous work, Fawn!!!

  • http://www.onepartjoyonepartcircus.com/ AJ Collins

    Great post! We are also strapped financially, so this is perfect timing! We like to eat at an inexpensive restaurant and wander through a book-store together.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Oh, the book store thing is a great idea because it can spark great dreams together.

  • Pam@mommacan.com

    Love this post! I just texted my husband…. : )

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Woohoo! He’s going to LOVE that!

  • Fina

    LOL you have just converted me to an “over girl” LOL Have a great day!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Woohoo! Now, we’re talkin! :) Make it a beautiful weekend, Fina.

  • Lisa

    This is so good! Do great minds think alike, or what? My post this week is on exercise and eating right, and how it makes the marriage sizzle!

    I can relate to your words that “some of the noises my body makes while we are having sex are definitely NOT the erotic kind!” Funny, but not funny!

    Keep up the great posts!

    Lisa
    http://www.thecourageousjourney.com

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Isn’t that the truth, Lisa! “Funny, but not funny!” :)

  • Tom and Debi Walter

    Fawn, We’ve had a similar group for the past 8 years. We’ve called it the Passport Dinner Club. I made a passport for each couple and we would stamp the page when we visited different countries. We did it so long that we ended up adding regions of the USA to our list of choices. The club has since ended, but we’re looking to start up again with another group of friends. I’m still so amazed you were able to travel the world last year. What an amazing opportunity!

    • Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      That seems like SO much fun!

  • Lisa Raub

    For me, I guess reading great blogs and good books has been the salvation of my marriage! God has been so good!

    My Beloved and I go out every other week (which is not often enough for either of us, but it’s what we can do right now) and I know that helps a lot too!

    Lisa

  • Lynn

    Thank you for hosting this blog hop! I look forward to reading the articles.

    Lynn (Living Free in Christ)

  • Lena Middleton

    These five points are very valuable and significant. I
    personally feel that it does not only improve the relationship but will create
    a good environment for the next generation.

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  • Fougies

    Best anniversary gift I ga e my husband was a voucher to get our first professional photo done he’s been wanting and waiting took awhile to pay it off but finally got it done and he cherishes it.

  • Cindy H.

    Hello Fawn, A group of women from a few of our local churhes are doing “The Husband Project” 21 days of loving Your Man on Purpose and with a Plan by Kathi Lipp. I found your site online by googling ideas on loving your husband. I shared your site with the rest of the ladies yesterday when I found it so they can get the certificate for their hubby too. I look forward to reading more on here!

  • TrulyWed Wives

    We’re excited, getting our Philly Wives ready!

  • Kirstin Fuller

    Fabulous ideas… Love them all! Thanks Christine!

  • http://www.aterriblehusband.com/about/ ATerribleHusband

    Awesome post! I usually text or send a silly selfie to my wife of me smiling or giving a thumbs up message. But I need to get “religious committed” to it. It’s been a few times per week. Love the ideas in the comments too!

  • JWilliamson

    I have just join the group I am really excited to add more to my marriage. Hope to hear from you ladies.

  • spope

    What a great ‘club’ to be a part of! I often hear people say couples that don’t fight don’t make it – I think that’s a load of balony personally. My husband and I have had exactly two fights in our relationship of over 18 years, and both times a little too much alcohol impared our judgement. We’ve not fought in our entire marriage of 13 years. Glad to hear there are other believers out there!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn Weaver

      So happy you found us here! Thank you.

    • LL

      Thats amazing! How do you do it? I feel like My husband and I bicker every day about something. What is your secret?

      • spope

        Watching my mothers five unhappy and unsuccessful marriages has taught me what NOT to do; everything is worth a fight to her. So, everytime I get annoyed and feel like sniping at him I ask myself ‘Is this worth getting divorced over?’ the answer is always no. Of course, it helps that we don’t have some of the normal marital stressors (we’ve chosen to be childfree, and have no financial issues) :)

        • C&R

          My fiance and I have been living together for two years now. We have not fought yet. A couple of disagreements, but that’s about it, nothing major. I think it’s a good thing. I do think about when we do have a big fight, on how we’re going to deal with it. Just saying ….

  • NikkiOpdycke

    We

  • NikkiOpdycke

    We have a daily ritual of “coffee time” every morning. We sit together and chat and enjoy each other’s company. It really keeps us connected.

  • Julz Yang

    You’re absolutely right. I don’t even know why I browse FB so much when there’s really nothing of interest going on. Such a terrible-terrible habbit that needs to be broken. Ugh. It’s not even so much that I need to spend more time with *him* because he’s at the office late into the night anyway, but I could really use that time to do more productive things. Maybe I need to go on a 21-day FB fast? :D

  • CS & RG

    Love this site. Not married yet, but engaged to be married. Thanks for all the helpful tips.

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