Old Habits Die Hard

By Fawn Weaver on Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Do you have old habits your husband’s been trying to kill to no avail?  I have too many to count so I thank God regularly for a patient husband.  Just recently we were laughing at a horrible habit I have that he’s been trying to help me correct for almost 10 years: licking my fingers…and not in a sexy way.

When I eat french fries with salt, there’s just something about the salt left on my fingers that tastes so good I can’t help but lick it off.  It’s almost better than eating the fries.  When I’m eating potato skins with cheese, as I was this past weekend, I can’t seem to dip the skins in ranch dressing without getting it all over my fingers.  And who wants to wipe ranch dressing off their fingers with a napkin?  Not me.  I’d rather lick it off.  Ditto for when I’m eating barbecue ribs.

I’m not a girlie girl.  Not that I needed to state that after having written the first two paragraphs.  I’ve never been a fan of pink, red and other colors that tend to appeal to women who are a bit more feminine.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I’m not a tomboy.  I love dresses and if you saw me walking down the street, you’d likely assume I’m extremely feminine.  You’d be right.  And you’d be wrong.

It’s hard to fit me in a box.  Sometimes I feel feminine and gentle and sometimes I just want to watch my favorite basketball team while yelling at the top of my lungs (speaking of another bad habit my hubby stopped trying to break me of years ago after concluding it was hopeless).

I am not your average woman.  Or maybe I am and have just become more comfortable in my own skin and don’t feel the need to become something or someone I’m not.  I’m a confident woman.  But I need my husband.  He makes me better.  There are some poor habits I continue to hold onto but many he’s helped me improve upon over the past decade.  I’m undoubtedly a better woman because of him.

He accepts me as I am.  He is able to do that because I accept him just as he is and would never try to change him.  There are quirks in his personality and bad habits he has that I simply accept.  I try to help him with them, if they’re important, but if not I just love everything that makes him unique.

What I have found with my husband, and men in general, is when we accept them for who they are they are more inclined to accept us for exactly who we are.  Those who stop trying to change their husband tend to find that action is reciprocated.  It’s funny how that works out.  When we accept each other just as we are, we form a love and bond through that acceptance that is like none other.  If you haven’t already, give it a try.  You’ll thank me for it.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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