Marriage Isn’t For You {A Post For You & Your Husband}

I never give reviews of articles from other sites on Happy Wives Club.  Never, ever.  But over the past week, this blog post has been sent to me by more people than I can even recall.  

Through email, Facebook, Twitter and direct message, this article has beckoned me.

I read the title and immediately determined it was not something I wanted to read.  It seemed negative.  I’d need to come back to that.  

The article began, “Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.”  

Why would I want to read that? I thought.  I couldn’t figure out why anyone who knew what I stood for would forward an article like that.  I closed the browser window, didn’t bother reading it, and returned to work.  

Then another friend sent me the exact same link.  Followed by another friend.  And another.  

My sister posted it on her Facebook page and tagged me in it.  This morning, a week after the article was first written, someone posted it on the Happy Wives Club community page with a note, “I had to share this with you.”  

Finally, I read it.  

Thank you Seth Adam Smith (and to everyone who sent me the article when I was trying my best to ignore it), for this great reminder that marriage is not for you, and it’s certainly not for me.

What I loved most about this post is in a day and age when selfishness is oft times masked as independence and adoring your spouse is deemed weak, this article makes an argument for the opposition.

“My father’s advice ['I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you'] was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s ‘Walmart philosophy,’ which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one,” Smith writes.  ”…Selfishness demands, ‘What’s in it for me?,’ while Love asks, ‘What can I give?’”

As I continued reading Smith’s brilliant post, I knew I’d want you (and your husband) to read it too.  I decided to post this brief review here because I don’t want you to miss it.

Remaining optimistic about marriage in today’s society requires a daily intent to do so.  You have to be vigilant about shielding yourself from the negativity out there surrounding marriage.

I get it.  That’s exactly why a post with a title like, Marriage Isn’t For You, was originally dumped in my trash folder.  But I’m so happy many came back to me and said, “Get it out of your email dumpster and read it!”  And now, I’m recommending the exact same thing to you.

The post will only take a few short minutes to read (you can find the original blog post here), but my hope is its words will continue to reverberate throughout your week.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

Founder at Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

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