How This Club Came to Be

By Fawn Weaver on Friday, November 18, 2011

When I think about how this Club came to be, and how much it’s grown since its inception, I have to chuckle a bit.  There was no planning.  No forethought.  No foresight.  I’d had a rough day at the office and needed to take my thoughts off of work and allow my mind a break.  

I don’t remember exactly what took place at the office that day but I do remember being unusually frustrated.  To cheer me up, Keith took me to get frozen yogurt (I’m not a hard person to make smile – tasty frozen yogurt will do the trick every time).  

Strolling along The Commons in Calabasas holding hands, we walked passed the Barnes & Noble bookstore.  I don’t remember what book I saw through the window (it’s been a while) but it must have been something with a negative outlook regarding marriage because I turned to Keith and began to vent about how the media and entertainment make marriages look so bad.

Now, considering he’s worked for a movie studio for the past 10 years, I was probably not venting to the right person :) .  Yet, I continued, “I love being married.  I’m a happy wife.  I’m not a desperate housewife.  I’m nothing like ‘the real housewives’ of Orange County, Atlanta, Jersey or anywhere else.  But the media never shows wives like me or marriages like ours.  They always focus on the negative.  They’re fixated on divorce.”

Now, Keith had been married to me long enough not to know exactly where this conversation was going, but to know it was going somewhere.  ”I’ve got it!” I proclaimed.  ”I’m going to start a Club.  It’s going to be called…hmmm…let me think.  I’m going to call it the Happy Wives Club!”  Cue the laughter…his not mine.

He was laughing so hard, mainly because the thought was completely random and seemingly came out of nowhere.  He reasoned, not only was the name of the Club incredibly corny, but I also had a jam packed work schedule that barely allowed time to enjoy something as simple as a frozen yogurt.  Touché.  

Even knowing I’d have limited time to devote, I knew I had to do something.  The negativity spoken about marriage was rising to a deafening roar and those who could counter it were slowly fading into a whisper.  So, I went home and started writing…and writing…and writing.  By 2am, the Happy Wives Club was born.  

When Keith awoke the next morning, I proudly showed him the new club site and he just shook his head, “Only my wife.  Only my wife.”

The Happy Wife might be missing from the pages of magazines we see at the grocery store each day, from the movies, television and most other forms of media and entertainment.  But she’s not missing here.  I’m a happy wife.  You’re a happy wife.  And we’re not the only ones.

Nearly two years after our inception, this club continues to grow each and every day.  And we’ve only just begun.  If you adore your husband and are a happy wife, let everyone know.  Post your #adoremyhusband comments here.  And if you’re not an official member of the club, it’s easy to join.

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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  • http://www.happywivesclub.com/community Fawn

    Do you adore your husband? Does he make you smile? Post your comments here and let us know he rocks!

  • http://www.lemondroppie.com Ginny Marie

    I #adoremyhusband because his kids are so important to him! He drove 30 minutes from work to preschool to watch my 4 yr old in her Thanksgiving play, which lasted about 10 minutes, and then drove 30 min. back to work! He's a wonderful father. :)

  • http://www.christiangirlygirls.com/ Jewelsy (Julie)

    Hi Fawn, I love your club. I am a very happy wife too! I think I will join the club! :)

  • JSW

    We just took a 2.5 hours flight and he was so hands-on the entire time, from the airport and the plane. He even changed our baby's blow-out diaper in the plane's tiny bathroom. Passengers were commenting on how good of a dad he was and how lucky I was. I couldn't argue. We landed to find out news of a family emergency, and he led our family with such strength and courage. He is my hero, and he serves our family with joy, humility, and sacrifice, and I fall in love with him more every day.

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Jewelsy-Thank you so much! We'd LOVE to have you as a member! We've had quite a few people joining today…exciting :) . Thanks for stopping by!

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Ginny & JSW- Sounds like you have some awesome hubbies! JSW- I know yours and he is as amazing as you say. Ginny, I don't know yours but I sure liked hearing about him. Thank you both for stopping by!

  • Angie M.

    I can't believe it's been two years since HWC was formed! I #adoremyhusband because he is such an amazing partner in life, best friend, father and provider. He makes me laugh, thinks I'm beautiful with frizzy morning hair and no makeup on, and when I'm ticking like a time bomb because of my own frustrations or emotions, he knows how to diffuse me gently, haha! He is wonderfully patient and kind and loves me unconditionally even though I don't always feel like I deserve it. With a newborn baby in the house, he's been helping out so much with our 3 year old son for the past 10 weeks while I've been busy with our baby girl. I think a lot of husbands 50 years ago (and even today) would be shocked by the ways my hubby helps out around the house and with the kids, and I know I'm so so so so so blessed to have him.

  • Fawn Weaver

    Angie, isn't that crazy it's been so long? And you are one of the founding members – whew hoo! Thanks for your #adoremyhusband comment :) .

  • Evette

    I can say I'm a happy wife! To all the women who question if they are a happy wife – May the Lord heal and restore what the locust have eaten……I #adoremyhusband for reminding me that it will be ok and the All Mighty God is on our side! My husband is a dedicated father and a wonderful provider! Thank you club leader for your posting today : )

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks for stopping by, Evette! I can't wait until next week when I'll be blogging about the many things I have to give thanks for and I have so many :) .

  • http://www.hammocktracks.com Savannah

    I adore my husband's sense of humor. We've been married for 23 years and there have been tough non-laughing times, but I adore that as we've grown our style of humor has meshed.

  • Christy Joy

    I #adoremyhusband–simply. And I'm so glad to be apart of HWC.

  • http://thenewscheherazades.blogspot.com/ marie

    2 years already, loved to learn how this great idea came from you mind to being a great blog and a nice place for all women to share for happy married liife
    #adoremyhusband – He stayed with me despite all the pressure from friends and family I think we are living the besr now, the beginning of our story had been quite complicated and being married is the best thing that ever happen to me

    Have a fabulous week-end

  • Fawn Weaver

    Savannah, Isn't it awesome as we grow closer together how much we change and become more like each other? More accepting of each other's differences. Congrats on 23 years of marriage! Your silver anniversary is right around the corner :) .

  • Fawn Weaver

    Marie, that's great. I'm so happy you two stuck it out and stayed together. Yeah for marriage! Thank you for stopping by and please check in with us often! And I saw your membership for the Club yesterday so Welcome!

  • Fawn Weaver

    Christy Joy- I'm so happy you're a part of the original 5 members of the Club. Whew hoo!

  • http://mommayoungathome.com Anjanette

    It is so nice to see a site about marriage that is not all doom and gloom! Writing is an addiction, passion what have you and it bit you. I love what you have done here. I adore my husband immensely Thanks for visiting..

  • Hannah

    This is such a cool idea! I too am a Happy wife and mom and it is nice to see that there are many others in the same boat. Love how it all started :)

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, Hannah & Amnjanette! I'm happy to know there are an endless number of Happy Wives out there and it's just a matter of getting us all together so we know we're not alone. Thanks for stopping by and please come back at join the conversation often.

  • http://www.LifeWithCheeseburgers.com Justine Duppong

    I love this blog, Fawn! It's such a great idea. My hubs is so absolutely perfect for me that I find myself wondering daily how I possibly got so lucky :)

  • Fawn Weaver

    Justine, Me too! Thanks so much for stopping by and now that you know we're here I hope you'll visit more often :) .

  • http://www.seoclerks.com Radu

    You should be pleased that you have good guys next to you :) )

  • http://chrysaliscafe.com e-Mom

    Hi Fawn,

    Thanks for stopping by at Chrysalis weblog. Your Q: Yes, our Marriage Monday Blog Hop meets e.o. Monday, and tomorrow (11/21) we have an Open Topic. You're invited to come and link up on any aspect of Christian marriage that your heart desires!

    We'll be breaking over the holidays, but will resume our posting schedule mid-January. Group topics are posted on Friday nights. Started in 2007.

    Blessings,

    e-Mom @ Chrysalis

    http://chrysaliscafe.com
    http://facebook.com/Chrysaliscafe

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Radu- We do! :) Thanks, e-Mom, I'll definitely check you guys out for Marriage Mondays.

  • http://Www.hopefulfuture.blogspot.com Paula

    Love it!!! I love everything you said! Haha

    I too have been maddened by the negativity towards marriage so prevelent in our culture! I remember trying to find love quotes once for a project I was making for our room so I googled "marriage quotes" because to me those should be the most passionate wise quotes of all… Nut what I found was a bunch of sarcastic "marriage is the end of your life/ball and chain" junk :( so sad!!!

    But I'm happy to have found you and the happy wives club. Our world needs this

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, Paula! And I'm so glad you found us :) , We're going to keep searching for happy wives all over the world and then we'll all be apart of the same Club, encouraging each other and drowning out the noise of a pessimistic world.