Encouragement for the Happy Wife {yes, we need it too}

You married your knight in shining armor.  Life with your hubby is better than you ever dreamed.  

So why aren’t you happy every moment of every day – all the time?

Marriage is truly one of the greatest gifts of this lifetime.  Nothing makes me smile quite like waking up next to my best friend.  But marriage is not the sum total of your entire life.  

It is a grand, awesome, wonderful,  supercalifragilisticexpialidocious (yep, Mary Poppins fan here) thing, but every life is multifaceted and the life of a happy wife is no different.

When a business deal goes bust or something you desired so much doesn’t happen, happiness may elude you momentarily.  

When your toddler or teenager tests your patience at the greatest level, happiness may seem a fleeting thought for that time and space.

It’s okay.  Be encouraged.  No one, in touch with their innermost feelings (and not afraid to express vulnerability), is happy all the time.

There are moments when you might feel like the wind has been knocked out of you.  Be encouraged.  

When the butterflies fluttering around in your stomach are representing nervousness instead of the butterflies of love you’re accustomed to, don’t get discouraged.

I love my life.  I adore my husband.  I’m the happiest wife I know.  But I also face disappointment at times, frustration in less-than-noble moments, and at times, wish I could bypass all future hurt and pain.

And here’s what I’ve learned: it’s okay.  And an even greater lesson, is how much faster I can return to happiness when I share my innermost feelings with my husband.  Two is better than one – absolutely!

Just yesterday, I received some pretty shocking news.  It took Keith by surprise too.  It rocked me for a little bit and did a number on my confidence.  Within hours, I did two things:

1) Expressed exactly how I felt with my husband and held no disappointment back.  Vulnerability was on full display, because I trust him.  This allowed me to talk things through and to realize the situation was truly no cause for alarm, just adjustment; and 2) My husband and I prayed together (love it when he prays over me).

Yes, happiness is a choice and I chose it in time to end my day on a high note.  But being vulnerable with my spouse and allowing him to speak words of encouragement to me, as well as to team up and figure out the best way to move forward, provided a pathway back home, to my happy heart.

Don’t be afraid of your disappointments.  Don’t run from your frustrations.  Know that your husband is the one person on earth you can remain vulnerable with at all times, because he is your trusted partner for life.  And together, you can take on the world.

Until Monday…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

Founder at Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

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