Don’t Blink

By Fawn Weaver on Monday, November 14, 2011

Don't Blink

I turned on the evening news
Saw an old man being interviewed
Turning a hundred and two today
Asked him what’s the secret to life
He looked up from his old pipe
Laughed and said “All I can say is:”

Don’t blink
Just like that you’re six years old and you take a nap and you
Wake up and you’re twenty-five and your high school sweetheart becomes your wife
Don’t blink
You just might miss your babies growing like mine did
Turning into moms and dads next thing you know your “better half”
Of fifty years is there in bed
And you’re praying God takes you instead
Trust me friend a hundred years goes faster than you think
So don’t blink

I was glued to my TV when it looked like he looked at me and said
“Best start putting first things first.”
Cause when your hourglass runs out of sand
You can’t flip it over and start again
Take every breathe God gives you for what it’s worth

So I’ve been tryin’ ta slow it down
I’ve been tryin’ ta take it in
In this here today, gone tomorrow world we’re livin’ in

Naw, don’t blink
Life goes faster than you think

It was so appropriate when this Kenny Chesney song came on the radio on the rushed drive to the airport tonight.  The day had certainly not gone as planned and now I was dashing down the 101 to the Burbank airport to hopefully catch the final Southwest Airlines flight to Las Vegas.

The morning began peaceful and without rush at 7am.  My niece, Jayla, was with me for a weekend sleepover while Keith was in Philadelphia for a men’s retreat.  I began writing what I thought would be the blog post for today until Jayla came in to inform me she was hungry.  And so the active portion of my day would officially begin.

I quickly whipped up some oatmeal with butter, brown sugar and chopped apples and a slice of buttered wheat toast on the side.  We sat down at the table and enjoyed Nickelodeon playing in the background.  She lobbied to extend our play date for one more night as I reminded her that she had school tomorrow and we’d already extended it from one night to two and Auntie Fawn had a lot of work to get done.

We agreed to make the most of the day and go to a matinee movie before returning to her home.  We lounged around in our pajamas until 11:30am when we needed to take showers and get dressed for the 12:30pm show.  That’s when the “Jayla Show” began.  Have you ever tried to get a child to move quickly to do something they really don’t want to do?  Well, trying to get little miss Jayla to pack all her things because it was time for our play date to end was like trying to get a tortoise to move a little faster.  She went slow as molasses.

Finally, she was packed, showered and dressed and alas…we were too late for the movie.  So we’d need to catch the 2:30pm show.  But wait, that wouldn’t work either because Auntie Fawn had a conference call set to begin at 3pm so we’d need to go to the 4:30pm show.  And this is where it got interesting.

I’d spent an hour or so on the phone with Keith this morning while he was waiting for the car to take him to the airport.  When the car arrived, we ended the call and agreed to meet at LAX at 9:50pm.  That was until I received a call nearly five hours later that his plane still hadn’t taken off due to mechanical issues and they’d now be routing him through Atlanta and on to Vegas scheduled to arrive close to midnight.

He asked me to check for flights leaving Vegas around midnight heading to any of the four airports in the LA area.  I searched for flights in vain as there was no flight leaving after 9:30pm.  His meetings in LA set for tomorrow are not negotiable so getting home before the morning was not an option for him.

Knowing all this, I immediately went into action.  Conference call would need to be held while I was in route to honor my commitment to my niece and take her to the movies.  I found a theater a little farther away with a 3:15pm showing and although we’d be a bit late we’d get there and I could get on the road.  I’d decided to travel to Vegas.

I purchased the airline ticket while Keith was still in route to Atlanta and asked his mom to take me to the airport.  I knew Keith would be exhausted from traveling all day and the likelihood of him being able to sleep on the plane was slim-to-none.  The idea of him renting a car and driving home alone in the wee hours of the morning made my heart sink for one simple reason: Don’t blink.

So much we take for granted.  We assume our loved ones will always be with us.  We trust God will keep those we love most alive and well.  But the reality is tomorrow is never promised.  No breath beyond the current is guaranteed.  If Keith was going to make the drive from Las Vegas to Los Angeles at midnight, I’d be with him every mile.

So that’s how I ended up sitting in gate C5 at McCarran International Airport, with a computer on my lap, typing this post at 10:40pm on Sunday night.  I’m excitedly awaiting my Baby’s plane to arrive so I can be by his side as he makes the journey back home.  Don’t blink.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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  • Fawn Weaver

    It's 4:18am and we've officially made it home. This drive definitely needed four available hands for the wheel and four eyes on the road. God is good.

  • Kim H.

    Fawn, what a great and timely entry. I went to a baby shower on Saturday, and we were asked to give some motherly advice… I always tell new parents to document everything, they think they will remember (how could I ever forget this???), but they will forget… and to treasure every moment, because it will be gone in the blink of an eye… And my mom and day would have celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary a couple weeks ago, but my dad passed in January. It is hard for my mom to believe that they were together for so long, and that she is now alone… I know that when my mom looks in the mirror she doesn't see the 80-something woman, any more than I see the almost 60 year old… Such a good reminder, Fawn, to appreciate every moment we are given. In this day and age, when people thinks they deserve this and are entitled to anything, we deserve nothing… everything is a gift, every moment we have breath is to be treasured and appreciated. Lord, give me eyes to see and a heart of gratitude as I walk through this and every day…

  • Miesa

    True example of a Happy Wife! Gosh…..made me think of how much easier it is to always show and appreciate your love ones! Even if it's a little inconvenient sometimes…..
    .it could actually save a life….you just never know!

  • Fawn Weaver

    Miesa, There is no doubt about it! There were at least a few occasions when I looked over at Keith and his eyes were completely shut — and he was the one driving! The last hour was the most critical so we cranked up the music and I danced for almost the entire hour. He thinks my dancing is the funniest (and most pitiful) so I knew he wouldn't be able to fall asleep with me dancing like a crazy woman in the passenger seat. I did think, however, the police might pull us over thinking we'd been drinking (LOL). Thanks for commenting…I truly, truly appreciate it!

  • Fawn Weaver

    Kim, You comment about feeling entitled really struck a cord with me because God has really been speaking to me about this lately showing me how even though I would never think or say I feel entitled to anything, I certainly do. For instance, if I put on my blinkers to change lanes and the person in that lane speeds up and it annoys me for a second, He showed me how that was a form of entitlement. My putting on my blinkers was a "request" and the person in the other lane had the right to deny the request. Learning we're not entitled to anything will help keep us humble. Is a lesson I'm currently learning and so grateful for that.

  • Christy Joy

    WoW! I love the words to that song and it's so true. You're an awesome wife and I plan to be a copycat:-) Thanks for taking the time to share !

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Christy- I love being a wife and I'm happy you do too! I'm so happy to share because you are kind enough to comment and let me know these words are resonating. Thanks! XOXOXO

  • Philomina

    What an insightful blog! Hats off to you for being a bright, shining example of sacrificial love.When I got married in 1973, my husband took a trip to Washington, D.C. from Los Angeles where we live. He stayed a week and was coming home the next day. I missed him so much that I flew to Washington in time to change planes and fly back with him. Don't blink.

  • Trinity

    Though I am not yet married, I hope that when I am my love for my husband is as abundant as yours is for Keith to sacrifice plans and sleep to be with him in the moments when he needed you, even though he didn't tell you to go. To be able to pre-meditate your husband's needs is a sign of a wonderful, loving and wise wife.

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Philomina- What encouragement! I never thought about flying to a city where Keith's on a layover but that would be an incredible surprise! I think I'd better wait until airfare prices come down a bit though :) .

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Trinity-The best time to glean wisdom on marriage is before you get married so I hope you'll continue following this blog so one day you can join the Club and say "I too am a happy wife!"

  • Shannon Tanner

    Hmm this is the wisdom that directed me to close down my full-time business, ministry and travel schedule four years ago to give my husband and boys what I never seemed to have enough of…TIME! I love this, it brought tears to my eyes and it encourages me to "keep living with the end in mind."

  • Azzure

    Wow cousin. What a blessing you are to be such a dedicated and caring wife. I know he loves and appreciates you and I know you adore and appreciate him. You guys are such an example of what true and unconditional love is. I admire you both. I miss you guys so much.

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, Shannon, for your words of kindness. I admire you for doing what you did. That's amazing. And for four years – wow! Very few would do that.

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, Az. Remember when you and I went to 3rd Street promenade and I got those undies that said "Keith's"? Nothings changed (including me still fitting into those undies – lol). Love you and miss you too.

  • http://joyintheweeds.com Joy

    What a wonderful story! Last winter I went with Michael on his annual hunting trip. I found a million reasons not to, but I finally gave in and went. I actually had a great time! I have found over the years, it's the unexpected time we spend together and sometimes the things we least look forward to that usually become the big memory makers. I would put money down (if I were a betting woman) that you will never forget that trip! I will never forget my 5 days at a hunting lodge doing not much of anything but keeping my husband company.

  • Fawn Weaver

    Joy, You're absolutely right. I'll never forget that trip. Five days in a hunting lodge with nothing to do…now, that's impressive! :)

  • Auntie B

    I forwarded your email to a few of my friends and Yvonne, sent the following message to me regarding your email:

    Don’t blink is right on. Fawn did a great job portraying her thoughts in her article.

    On October 28, 2010, my sister tested positive for cancer and I blinked. On February 5, 2011 (exactly 100 days later) she was gone. It seems that all of that happened after one blink. We must cherish our loved ones to the utmost and not take any of our friends or relatives for granted. Don’t blink is right!

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Auntie B- This comment is great and exactly the reason I wrote it. So we would all remember to take no moment for granted. I need to also be reminded of this every day because our lives takes us in so many different directions. But making sure we "don't blink" is key and your friend, Yvonne, reminded us of exactly why. Thanks for sharing!

  • http://julesmpg.blogspot.com Julie

    What a wonderful thing to do for your husband. I would have done the same thing. Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Julie- My pleasure! I love blog hopping :) . Stop by any time. I will certainly be stopping by your site. Talk to you soon.

  • http://myraysofsunshine.com Faith – My Rays of Sunshine

    Fawn, love it! I can relate so many of my life stories to Kenny Chesney songs. I would name the songs, but you might as well read Kenny's discography.

  • Fawn Weaver

    LOL, Faith! I love Kenny Chesney songs too :) . That's what I love most about country music are the lyrics. Great songwriting. Thank you so much for stopping by!

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  • http://www.laughwithusblog.com/ Laugh With Us Blog

    I've been thinking along these same lines! We just don't know how long we'll have and even if we do live to be 100 we will look back and it will seem like it went by in a flash!

  • http://homeschoolingandotheradventures.blogspot.com Kristi

    Thanks so much for sharing this post with me! Beautifully stated!!

  • http://nflhz.com Amy

    I love this song and it has so much real meaning in it. My first boyfriend went to work and never returned. He passed away that day from a horrible accident at work. I would never have a chance to see him again. Don't Blink…make sure you tell those you love everyday that you love them and how special they really are. Love your post.

  • Fawn Weaver

    @Kristi- Thanks! @Amy- Wow! That must be crazy to think about that even now. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Truly appreciate it.

  • http://www.hopefulfuture.blogspot.com Paula

    SUCH a sweet story.

    glad you posted this in the top ten… :)