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About Fawn Weaver

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

How I Met My Husband (let’s just say it’s not how I expected)

Earlier this week, as I was reading all the blog posts that participated in our Link Up Thursdays, I came across a great story of how a woman met her husband 19 years ago.  And then I realized, I don’t think I’ve ever told you how I met my husband.

It was 2003 and I was visiting the hair salon of a woman I’d met through one of my closest friends.  She’d been going to this salon for fifteen years and I loved her hair so I decided to give her stylist a try.

At the time, I was the business manager and minority owner of one of the hottest fine dining restaurants in the Los Angeles/Beverly Hill area (said Los Angeles Magazine and the L.A. Times – not me :) ) and it kept me busy and on my toes at all times.  So every time I came to get my hair done, I did so with laptop and cell phone in hand and usually spent no more than 10 minutes talking to anyone.

That was, until the day I rushed out the office to make it to my appointment and didn’t have time to grab my laptop and forgot my cell phone.  Sitting in the salon chair, it was like foreign territory.  I would actually have to engage my not-so-new stylist.  As an introvert who loves nothing more than to get her hair done in peace, let’s just say I wasn’t expecting the conversation that came next.

With my head leaned back in the wash bowl and the stylist shampooing my hair, she began talking to me about my career.  ”I can’t imagine how successful you’re going to be when you’re my age if you’re this good at business at such a young age.”  She was trying to strike up a conversation but knew nothing about me other than all the calls she’d overheard as I was talking to staff, chefs, business partners, etcetera.  (Don’t worry, I’m not that loud, rude person in the salon talking on her phone.  I was probably the quietest person in the shop…mainly because the shop was so loud.)

My answer surprised her.  I told her that I had no desire to be a super successful business woman.  It was just all I’d ever known.  ”My hearts desire,” I told her, “is to be an excellent mom and an excellent wife.”  Without so much as missing a beat, she responded, “You have to meet my son!”  Now, let me tell you that’s the last thing I wanted to hear from the person putting shampoo in my hair who had me in complete submission because I could not move.

For the next hour, she talked nonstop about her son (who, if listening to her describe him, was just a little lower than the angels)  and then asked if she could have my telephone number.  Awkward.  

I told her yes but then slipped out the front door at the end of my appointment before she could notice I was leaving. This went on for several appointments until I finally relented and gave her my telephone number.

But then, her son didn’t call.

To be continued on Tuesday…

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

89. He is so sexy in a sweatsuit while chewing gum (don’t ask my why this turns me on, it just does :) ).

90. He puts he toilet seat down (although he forgot this morning, that’s rare) and cleans off the wash basin after shaving.

91. He’s always working to improve himself for the better.

92. He’s always trying harder to make the life of our family even better.

93. He loves my mother and my five siblings and treats them as his own.

94. He tells me “I love you” no less than 10 times a day (not kidding).

Join me in creating your own Why I Love My Husband list and share it on your Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest pages.  Bloggers: Make sure to come back every Thursday and link it up the blog post with your ever expanding list.  Just grab the button below and tell everyone all the reasons you love, adore and cherish your husband. 

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Why I Love My Husband



 

Keeping My Lens Clean & Link Up Thursday

 

I love my husband.  Just had to get that out.  As I sit on the couch, looking around our home while writing this post to you, I can’t help but smile thinking about that handsome man named Keith.  All the quirky things he does that make me laugh or shake my head.  Like the empty cans of Diet Sunkist he seems to leave all around the house before going to bed.  Or how he can’t seem to turn off a light at bedtime to save his life.  I’m generally writing and go to bed after him, so I guess he figures I might need the light.

I love how he gets tired and conks out before having a chance to get ready for bed.  So I’ll gently tap him and out of a deep sleep, he’ll emerge, with a smile on his face as he recognizes who just woke him up.  He’s just a great guy.  Have I ever told you that?  Probably so.  And I guess it’s easy to reason if he weren’t, this Club might not exist.

There are so many benefits I’ve found to speaking (and writing) wonderfully of my spouse every day.  The first, is the more I talk about it, the harder he works to keep me smiling.  Another benefit is something I read on a bloggers site last week through the link up.  She said (and I’m paraphrasing because I can’t remember which site I saw it), “When I write a list daily containing reasons I love and adore my husband, I begin to see him through that lens.”  I just love that!

So here’s my question for you.  What lens are you using to look at your husband?  Why not create an even clearer one by joining me in creating your own Why I Love My Husband list?  No matter where you post it, on your blog, Facebook page, Pinterest, wherever.  Begin your never-ending list and link it up below.  For inspiration, hop over to some of the blogs you see below.  Trust me, I did it last week and it was very cool.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

84. He’s a strong man when it comes to the rest of the world but a complete softy when it comes to me.

85. When he picked me up at the airport this week, we walked out with me holding no bags and him holding three.  No matter how I tried to help, he simply wanted to take care of me.

86. He gets dressed for the gym early in the morning, in the dark, so I can continue to get some rest.

87. He likes his coffee black, I’m a white coffee kind of girl, and thus he makes sure our home is never without Coffeemate and Splenda.  

88. He is a git-r-done kind of guy.  No sooner does he think something should be done that he actually gets it done. 

 

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Flying High on Love

Yesterday, as I was flying into Nashville, I experienced the worst turbulences I’ve ever come across.  In the past six months, I’ve been on no less than 40 flights and this one was by far the rockiest.  The young man sitting in the middle seat next to me was just a few seconds away from a complete meltdown.  Literally.

While dropping from the sky at a rate so quickly the flight attendants began power walking down the aisles to the back of the plane, the only thing I could think of was: 1) Heaven and 2) Keith.  My prayer is always the same when those turbulence begin and my guess is they are similar to what a person might say on their death bed.  I always have a great deal of peace about them, I simply pray I won’t feel any pain, won’t be scared, and will go straight to heaven.

As for Keith, my prayer this time was a little different than usual.  For some reason, I found myself praying that he’d love me for the rest of his life.  But, and there is a but, I prayed it will be way down the line.  I prayed he would fall in love again and the children we weren’t able to have together, he would be able to conceive with another.  But again, I was hoping this would happen many, many -possibly light years- away.

I guess I’m hoping that even after I’m gone, he will remain in love with me as I know I would remain in love with him.  Technically, it shouldn’t matter what he does once I’ve moved on from this life, but for some reason it does.  I want this love we have to continue in his heart and mine until the end of time.  And what’s beautiful about today is I am still here.

Less than 10 minutes after the horrid weather rocked our plane, we dropped to below the clouds and were able to fly the rest of the way from that level.  So as I wrap up my business meetings in Nashville today and await my time to return home, I’m grateful for this life and the opportunity I have to love the wonderful man I call Papa.

I refuse to wait until it’s too late to begin loving my husband.  I will enjoy every moment of our life together…today.  And every day.  Until the end of time.  What about you?

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

78. He is my biggest fan.

79. He never looks to point out what I’ve done wrong or the err of my ways.  He looks for how he can build me up and make me feel great about what I do right.

80. He buys me bottles of every kind of water except Aquafina and Dasani (the two he knows I don’t like).

81. He texts me if a meeting is running later than he anticipated so I know to expect his call soon.

82. He is the most loyal person I’ve ever known.

83. When I travel on business, he always gives me 1,001 reasons to want to come home.

Join me in creating your own Why I Love My Husband list and share it on your Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest pages.  Bloggers: Make sure to come back every Thursday and link it up the blog post with your ever expanding list.  Just grab the button below and tell everyone all the reasons you love, adore and cherish your husband. 

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Sprinkling the Internet with Love

I’m still beaming from reading all the amazing Why I Love My Husband posts bloggers sprinkled the internet with this week.  On Thursday, we hosted our very first link up party.  I’d seen link up parties around the blogosphere for years but never felt compelled to host one.  That was, until I had this thought.

So on Thursday and Friday, I spent several hours blog hopping and visited every site that linked up.  With nearly 100 bloggers joining in on the fun, that was no small feat!  But I committed to visit each site and I was so happy I did because they encouraged me personally.

When you share an idea with the world, you never know how it will be received.  There is no way to gauge how it will impact other’s lives.  That’s why when I visited the various blogs and read how this link up inspired so many to create their own Why I Love My Husband list, it made my heart smile.

There were heart touching, soul searching, and some downright funny fantastic posts that linked up on Thursday and I hope you’ll get a chance to visit as many as possible.  Here’s just a few examples of what people were saying around the web about their hubbies:

7 On a Shoestring

There you have it. My top 5. But… this is on no way an extensive list. In fact, this was just a start. And, I’m not even sure it is my “top 5” because as I wrote I thought of several more. Picking just 5 was no easy task. I adore my husband.

 

Ecocrazy Mom

So with all of the lists my life- “to-do” lists, shopping lists, contact lists, and the list goes on, I think it’s time I created a (never ending) “Why I Love My Husband List” to constantly remind myself of the many reasons I truly love and adore my man!

 

Farmgirl Follies

No, it’s not his birthday, nor is it our anniversary. Yes, yes he is dying and so am I — aren’t we all?  That’s why this matters so much, why getting it right is so vitally important, even on ordinary days. They matter most — those ordinary days in the ordinary existence of a real housewife…

 

Tiny Oranges

Sometimes it is really easy to get caught up on the negative things in relationships and the things that drive us crazy or bug us. But when you sit down and think of all the reasons WHY you LOVE your husband, the negative things seem to fade.

 

Fit Mom Fit Kids Club

Just looking at this shot of us last month, I mean this should be enough right. Gesh the man is a HUNK!  The moment I met him I fell in love with Byron and I knew from the moment I met him that he was going to be my husband!  I can go on forever listing reasons I love my husband but I’ll just name a few.

 

Hot, Holy & Humorous

Since I write about married sexuality, I wondered how I should approach this. I could say, “Well, there’s this thing my hubby does with his hands that…” Yeah, not so much. Not sharing that one. (Even if, at that very moment, I love, adore, and revel in my husband. I mean, wow.)

 

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

73. He’s so fabulous he inspired this list.

74. He’s such an extraordinary person, I launched an entire club because of him.

75. He inspires me to be a better person; but accepts me just as I am.

76. There is nothing I cannot share with him; no secrets necessary.

77. He wraps me in his arms and prays for me…prays for us.

Join me in creating your own Why I Love My Husband list and share it on your Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest pages.  Bloggers: Make sure to come back every Thursday and link it up the blog post with your ever expanding list.  Just grab the button below and tell everyone all the reasons you love, adore and cherish your husband. 

COMMENTS: With more than 85,000 Happy Wives Club members already actively engaged on our Facebook Community page, what better place to share your thoughts? Join me there and let’s continue the conversation.  

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Why I Love My Husband – Our First Ever Link Up Party!

You have visited this site on a very special day.  It’s our first ever Link Up party and something we’ll now do here every Thursday.  My decision to host a link up for the first time in three years stemmed from one thought.

What if, just for one day, writers and bloggers from all over the web joined in creating a list detailing all the reasons they love, adore and cherish their husbands?  And then (maybe, just maybe) in the days, weeks, and months ahead, continued adding to their list as a reminder to their readers (and themselves) that marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts in the world.

And what if, from this group of bloggers, women all over the world began reminding themselves daily of the gift bestowed upon them in this lifetime union, and created their own lists?  Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Post-it notes left all over houses with this very simple title, Why I Love My Husband.  I can already feel the love filling the air!  

This is precisely why I asked some of my favorite bloggers on the web to join me today.  If you’ve not checked out some of these blogs, you don’t know what you’re missing!  And if you’re a blogger and haven’t yet linked below, simply begin a list on your own site and join the link-up party!  

Our members will visit your sites for inspiration on how to create their own list.  And I’ll personally be visiting every site that links up here simply to say, Thank You.  Thank you for sharing the love in your life for the world to see.  I’ll kick this off by continuing my own never-ending list below and I look forward to reading yours (hopefully, every Thursday :) ).   

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!  

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

66. He encouraged me to follow my passion in spite of the income we’d temporarily lose in order to make it happen.

67. He wears a headset when watching television in the living room because that’s oftentimes the same place I’m writing.

68. He knows I don’t enjoy cooking, so he cooks just as much as I do.

69. He knows I don’t enjoy folding clothes, so we often split wash and fold duties.

70. Not a day goes by where he doesn’t make me smile and laugh at least 25 times.

71. He doesn’t seem to care when his feet are dry and completely white from not putting on lotion…and goes out in sandals anyway.

72. He bought bright orange tennis shoes even though we wears a size 15 and sent me a text to tell me how much people in New York love his new shoes.

 


Why I Love My Husband



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Intimate Conversation with Kristine Carlson

Con’t from Part One

When Richard Carlson passed away, he was only 4 years older than Keith.  And when Kristine (affectionately known as Kris) became a widow, she was only 7 years older than I am now.  Sitting in the chair where Richard used to sit, interviewing his young widow, I was reminded of the frailty of life and how tomorrow is never promised.  We talked about the many characteristics of their marriage that made it so extraordinary.

Similar to Keith and me, and so many other happily married couples I’ve interviewed, Kris and Richard began each morning with one-on-one time together.  They talked often and about everything.  She recalled a time when they hit a speed bump in their marriage, “We were so busy and fragmented our connection was off.”  Like many new parents, the transition into parenthood wasn’t as smooth as they would have liked.  And there came a day when that changed warranted a real heart-to-heart.

Out of all the chairs in the house, “we were seated at the little kids table.”  And considering Richard was 6’4″ and 195 lbs, that was a whole lotta man for such a tiny chair.  But it was in this small place they had what Kris described as “a really pivotal conversation in our marriage.”

During that discussion, Richard said something that would have made most women upset.  Kris didn’t agree but she purposed to listen.  ”I remember saying to myself, ‘You know what, Kris?  You’d better listen at a deeper level.  You better listen to the feeling behind what he’s saying right now and don’t listen to the content.  Don’t make this about what he’s saying.  Listen to the frustration.  Just breathe; don’t react.  Just listen.’” 

In doing that, she was able to hear the hurt in his voice and the disappointment in his heart.  Even though she didn’t agree with much of what he said, that didn’t matter, she surmised.  It wasn’t about her in that moment.  The only thing that mattered was her heart being open to hear what his heart was pouring out.  She remembers being able to respond to him from this overwhelming place of love.

From that day forward, she determined she would always listen heart-to-heart. She would make sure her heart remained open to his and would never allow momentary disagreements to close it.  And the day he passed away, living only half the life she’d hoped, she was at peace knowing she loved him more than anything else in this world and expressed that in her words and action every single day.  And he did the same.  

Not only was I reminded throughout my time that life is but a vapor, I was challenged to always keep my heart open and as her husband taught us all, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all small stuff.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

61. He accompanied me to this interview with Kristine Carlson, when there were so many other things he could be doing, and he took away as many life lessons as I did (and was happy he went).

62. He never stops learning.  He strives to be a student of life rather than a teacher.

63. He epitomizes the Warren Buffet quote, “When people tell me they’ve learned from experience, I tell them the trick is to learn from other people’s experience.” 

64. He can’t wait to be a father.  But still patiently awaits my body’s acceptance of this fact.

65. He hates talking on the telephone…and yet looks forward to our calls throughout each day…no matter where in the world either of us might be.

Join me in creating your own Why I Love My Husband list and if you’re a blogger, join me here tomorrow for our very first Link Up Party!  Just begin your own WILMH list and then link it up.

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Interview with Kristine Carlson

To say I had one of the greatest honors of my lifetime, this past weekend, would be an understatement.  I had the opportunity to interview a woman who has insprired me (and many blog posts on this site) for years.  

I didn’t know much about Kristine until her husband, Richard Carlson, unepectedly died at the age of 45.  I didn’t know that she, herself, was the bestselling author of so many books until we met this past Saturday at her home in Northern California.

I knew of her husband because I am one of the 25 million people who have purchased one of his books.  His Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series was revolutionary in the field of psychology because it told us two things: 1) We can be happy, right now, no matter the current circumstances; and 2) The key to our happiness lies in our ability to choose it moment-by-moment and our determination to simplify our thoughts and life.

Richard and Kristine had been married 22 years (together for 25 years) when he boarded a routine flight from San Francisco to New York in 2006.  Before his plane arrived at its destination, he passed away from a pulmonary embolism.  Just that quick.  In the twinkling of an eye.  Nothing could have prepared Kristine or their two teenage daughters for such a loss.

A couple years after his death, I came across a book in Barnes & Nobles, An Hour to Live, An Hour to Love.  The title captivated me so I purchased it.  In the book, Kristine shares the love letter Richard gave to her on their 18th wedding anniversary.  In it, he answered 3 questions, “If you had one hour to live, who would you call, what would you say and what are you waiting for?”

Richard wrote a 36-page love letter to Kristine and their two children answering those three questions.  He poured out his heart in such a way I wish I knew how.  He wanted to make sure he didn’t leave this life without letting his family know how much he loved, cherished and adored them.

Wednesday, I’ll share with you some tidbits from the interview.  You won’t want to miss out on the great wisdom I learned from this memorable conversation, in the home she shared with her husband.  A home that looks (and feels) as though its not changed one iota since his death.  She keeps his memory alive and ever present and the love they had for each other (and the love she continues to have) could be felt in every room of their home.

Finish this sentence: “I fall in love with my husband all over again every time he…”  Now, maybe take those thoughts and make them the beginning of your own love letter.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

53. Not one day goes by without him telling me how much he loves and appreciates me.

54. Even when we are apart (which has been happening alot more lately as we’re both traveling for work), he calls, texts and/or Skypes several times a day to let me know I’m on his mind.

55. He says I love you at the conclusion of every call.  We rarely, if ever, say goodbye.  When he walks out the door or we end a phone call, the way we conclude is the same way we begin, with those priceless 3 words.

56. He tolerates my various food quirks.  One day I’m eating super fatty and sweet food and the next I’m super strict with what type of food I’ll eat to undo what I’d just overdone.  He just goes with the flow and does the same.

57. He only cares about what is important.  He, like Richard Carlson, has mastered the art of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.

58. He watches basketball with me, even though it’s more my thing than his, and he doesn’t complain when I’m rooting on my San Antonio Spurs at the top of my lungs (which is often).

59. He just wants me to be happy.

60. I am his closest friend and confidant and he makes sure I always know that.

Join me in creating your own Why I Love My Husband list and share it on your blog, Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest pages.  Just grab the button below and tell everyone all the reasons you love, adore and cherish your husband.

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Love Blooms In the Summer (and Winter)

Why I Love My Husband - Reason 48

Meeting Estrellita and Mario was such an honor.  Keith and I traveled on our ninth wedding anniversary from Buenos Aires (where I interviewed another couple happily married 25-plus years) to interview this beautiful couple.  North America is in the midst of its winter so it was nice to go down south (to South America, that is) and enjoy their summer.

Beyond the beautiful weather, I just love being in the presence of those happily married.  There is just something about their lives that make me want to hold on to the bliss I’ve found in my marriage no matter what.  Being around them reminds me that love is indeed possible…until the very end of time.

Similar to Silvina and Marcello (the couple I interviewed in Buenos Aires), Estrellita and Mario worked their way to the top.  She’s an ophthalmologist and he’s an orthopedic surgeon.  They began with very little (they were so poor, they’d spend weeks just scraping together enough money to go out on a movie date) and supported each other’s dreams. They never stopped believing in one other and propelled each other to the top.

When I sit among couples like these, sipping tea and eating delicious pastries from their native land, I’m reminded of the study published last year that said married couples are happier than their single counterparts over time and gave the reasons why.  Just spending time with people like Estrellita and Mario give me enough reasons to hold on to this love we have and to never let go.

Have you been looking for ways to achieve your greatest desires in life?  Trying to figure out how to reach your highest goals?  Based on the countless number of interviews I’ve conducted with successful people, here’s one definite tip: Partner with your spouse.  Two minds are better than one and four hands are more resourceful than two.  You’ll get there twice as fast and with half the headache if you’ll team up with your life partner to “git-r-done.”

At the conclusion of dinner, they surprised us with a decadent cake in honor of our wedding anniversary.  With a candle lit, they sang a song in Spanish in celebration of our special occasion.  Nothing could be better than being married to this amazing man for nearly a decade (except possibly being married to him and eating a delicious chocolate cake at the same time).  Love is certainly a thing of great splendor.

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

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Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

46. He spent hours organizing my desk that I’d allowed to become overrun with notes and random pieces of paper.

47. He calls me several times a day just to say “I love you” even though his day moves at the speed of lightning.

48. He accompanied me on a day trip to Montevideo, Uruguay last week to interview the fabulous couple in the photo above (and he never complained although it was our wedding anniversary).

49. He gives me cards for no reason and rarely writes more than one sentence in them.  But the “I love you more than life” is all I ever need to read and it makes me fall in love all over again.

50. His eyes melt my heart

51. His lips quench my thirst.

52. His caress touches my soul.

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Excited About 2013!

I’m incredibly excited about 2013.  What about you?  I brought in the New Year in South America with my wonderful hubby by my side.  He accompanied me to Buenos Aires, Argentina and Montevideo, Uruguay to interview two couples happily married for the past 25-plus year.  It was his first time joining me while I conduct interviews and I could tell he gained so much from the experience.

For one, he realized my Spanish is alot better than he knew (albeit, not nearly as good as it used to be).  And he also got a chance to be welcomed into the homes of two of these beautiful couples I’ve been interviewing from around the world.  After leaving the second interview he said, “Honey, I want to bring some of this South American hospitality home with me.”  I told him, “Babe, you ain’t seen nothin’ yet.”

There is something about happily married people.  They’re just nicer people.  I don’t mean to imply those who aren’t happily married are unkind, I’ve just noticed a commonality among all those I’ve interviewed around the globe.  They’re some of the most loving, open, hospitable, kind and welcoming people I’ve met throughout my lifetime.

I’m excited to share my experiences with you this year.  I needed to wait until I’d wrapped up my travels and visited all 12 countries before I could begin talking about similarities I noticed among the couples.  I have one final interview this weekend and Keith is hopping on a plane with me one more time (it’s so much better when he’s with me).

In Buenos Aires, I interviewed a beautiful couple.  The wife, Silvina, is one of the top plastic surgeons in the world.  Her husband, Marcello, has been a judge the past 20 years.  Two powerful people and yet they aren’t jockeying for positioning within their marriage.  I loved that.  They both began with humble beginnings (that is to say, nothing was handed to them on a silver platter).  

They attended public college (in Argentina, college -even for their equivalent of your bachelors, masters and doctorate degrees- are free to obtain through their public college system) and worked their way up the ranks.

One of the things I love most about Silvina and Marcello’s story is how they were able to achieve this great life of success by supporting each other from the very beginning.  They were high school sweethearts with dreams.  And each dug deep down inside to help the other achieve their life’s goals.  And without question, they both succeeded.

Question: Has your husband ever had a goal you helped him achieve?  And/or vice versa?

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

39. He walked with me for almost 10 hours straight through the streets of Buenos Aires because I love to walk (I call it “free exercise”…he calls it ridiculous :) ).

40. When he comes home at night, he’s far more interested in learning about what great thing happened in my day than he is of sharing what happened in his own.

41. He believes in my wildest dreams and is always ready to put his on hold to ensure I achieve mine.

42. He shared with me his favorite Nepresso limited edition hazelnut coffee (even though he’s running low on them).

43. He knows me like the back of his hand and anticipates my needs.

44. Although I work from home, he doesn’t treat my job with any less importance than his own.

45. He forced me to purchase a fabulous leather jacket in Buenos Aires that I would never purchase because it looked to “fashionable” and I am a self-proclaimed plain dresser.  But he convinced me I looked “fierce” and I believed him.

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See You in the New Year!

Today is my last blog post until January 3rd.  Until then, Keith and I will be travelling around South America and interviewing couples happily married 25 years or more.  These will most certainly be some of my favorite interviews so far as they will be the first one’s I conduct with Keith by my side.

When I set out earlier this summer to travel the world in search of the secrets to a happy marriage, I had no idea the amazing adventures I’d discover.  From North America to Africa, Europe to Asia, Australia to New Zealand and now on to South America, the couples I’ve interviewed continue to confirm all the secrets to a happy marriage are not based on circumstances but rather the power of choice.

What many of you don’t know (because this is the first time I’m mentioning it on the blog), is my travels were in conjunction with my new publisher and will be documented in a book releasing in the fall of 2013.  I can’t wait until I’ll finally be able to share with you the amazing lessons I learned along this journey of a lifetime.

For your friends and family who think, as Henry Youngman once said, “The secret to a happy marriage remains a secret,” there will finally be a book that shares with them the universal secrets so many of you already know.  

As this year comes to a close -and I take a few days off to celebrate my Honey’s bday (he’s a Christmas eve baby), our wedding anniversary (it’s tomorrow :) ), Christmas, the New Year and to conduct my final interviews for the book- I want to say thank you for joining me throughout this year.  

Thank you for choosing to be a light in what can sometimes be a very dark and cold world.  And thank you for choosing happiness in your marriage and giving yourself permission to express that openly.  You have no idea how many people your love will impact.  

Every time I see a couple snuggled up in a corner, holding hands walking down the street or looking into each other’s eyes across a dinner table, I think of you.  I know, at any given moment, I could be looking at one of the members of this club.  I love that about meeting you online and then believing I’ll also see many of you in person…without even knowing it.

Until next year…make every moment count!

Why I Love My Husband (the never-ending list):

26. He’s unselfish.  So much so he’s spending our wedding anniversary in Uruguay sitting by my side as I interview a couple for the book.

27. He admits when he’s wrong (and usually without my prompting).

28. And when he’s right he never throws it in my face.

29. He’s gentle in his approach with me.  He knows I’m a strong woman but still need to be handled gently.

30. He loves making love to me.

31. He’ll talk on the phone with me for hours…even though he doesn’t like talking on the phone.

32. He calls me throughout his busy work day just to check in and see how my day is going.

33. He does this thing with his eye brows -lifting them up and down in rapid succession- to let me know he’s still checking me out.

34. He pledged to be with me til’ death do us part.  And I believe him.

35. He washes dishes

36. He folds clothes.

37. He never complains.

38. He makes sure to take me out at least once a week.

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Shhhh…It’s a Secret

I’m sharing something with you even before I share it with my husband.  Keith’s birthday is next week so I’ve spent the past month planning a special treat for him.  And although today isn’t his actual birthday, I’m surprising him with a day full a of activities he’ll love.

Keith reads this blog from time-to-time so I need to pause momentarily for a station identification :) .  NOTE TO KEITH: Honey, if you’re reading this, please STOP HERE.  I love you and you’re just minutes away from your day of surprises beginning…so don’t ruin it!

Okay, now back to my secret plans.  I wrote that note as a precaution but it’s highly unlikely Keith will have a moment’s time to visit the blog post today.  Because in an hour (and I’m so excited about this), I am taking him to the fitness studio he goes to every morning for cycling and power yoga.  This was the only thing he asked me to make sure I include in his special day.  What he doesn’t know is it was always going to be included.  

I have 30 of his closest friends and family meeting us at the studio and EVERYONE is going to join him in his intense hour-long workout.  Can you imagine how much fun I’ve had planning this?  The entire studio is in on it, from the owner to the front desk to the teachers.  One of his teachers from his 5:30am class was scheduled to be out of town today but took a 7am flight back to make sure she was here his this surprise.

Not bad, eh?

After we all workout, we will go to his favorite nearby Mexican restaurant and toast the most amazing man I’ve ever known.  I’m capping off the day with a private dinner at one the top rated restaurants in the Los Angeles area.  Neither of us have been but often make mention when passing by it on our way through Santa Monica.

Have you ever surprised your hubby with a special birthday (day of events or extraordinary gift)?  How did it make you feel?  But more importantly, how do you think it make him feel?  Right now, I’m so excited I might actually burst!  I wish you were here to join in the fun with us.  But I trust you and your hubby will have an awesome day today, as well. 

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

Continuing my Why I Love My Husband list:

20. He supports me in all that I do.

21. He’s my Encourager-in-Chief allowing me to dream big; never telling me something is out of my reach.

22. He bakes delicious desserts to satisfy my never-ending sweet tooth.

23. He’s faithful.

24. He doesn’t give me a hard time when I turn on Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner or Pretty Woman (two movies I’ve seen more times than I can count).

25. When we’re out and I get cold (as was the case last night), he’ll always give my his jacket.

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Why I Love My Husband (the possibly never-ending list)

“1. He is EXTREMELY handsome! His dimples are beautiful, his eyes expressionistic and he is tall.  Just kidding.  He’s not tall but he is taller than me and that is all that matters.  LOL!  2. He puts up with me and my mood swings AND those of my closest girlfriends. This takes a tremendous amount of PATIENCE and understanding.  3. He is very ROMANTIC.  Picnics in the park, wine tasting, regular date nights, planning surprise trips to Europe, hot air ballooning over Napa Valley, need I say more?”

These were the first 3 items listed on Pia’s blog page when I visited on Saturday.  She’d seen my invitation here to join me in creating a Why I Love My Husband list.  And she jumped right in.  The smile widened on my face when I saw the beginnings of her list on all the reasons she loves and adores her husband.  

Speaking of lists, have you started yours yet?  If so, don’t forget to post the link to your blog, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram (or whatever you’re using to showcase your list) on our Facebook community page.  And if you haven’t begun creating it, what are you waiting for?  

The amount of fun I’m having coming up with my list…I can’t even begin to explain.  I’m really serious about this, my list could possibly go on forever.  So if your list has the potential of being anywhere near as long as mine, you may want to get started on it today.

11. He loves God more than he loves me and he loves me ALOT.

12. He puts me above all people, including his mom (which is tough since he’s an only child and she’s a sweetheart).

13. He will drop everything he’s doing if I say, “Honey, want to take me on a date tonight?”

14. He’s a man of his word.  If he says he’ll do something, I can take that to the bank.

15. He lets me get in on his side of the bed at night to snuggle (before kicking me out and over to my side :) )

16. We share everything.  He doesn’t believe in “mine” and “yours.”  What’s his is mine and vice versa.

17. He spends more time than I can imagine just thinking about how to please me.

18. Making me happy is his life’s greatest joy (and if you ask him, probably one of his greatest achievements).

19. He cleans after himself.  Yes, even in the kitchen.

20. He surprises me at least once a week.  It could be something as simple as meeting me at the airport with a caramel apple from Whole Foods (as he did last week) or having a bag peanut M & M’s in the passenger side door when I get in his car.

Each one of us has flaws, idiosyncrasies and imperfections.  Just like you and I have them, so do our spouses.  Keeping a Why I Love My Husband list (aka “gratitude list”) will ensure the next time he does something incredibly silly or annoying, you’ll remember all the wonderful things he does and make a decision not to sweat the small stuff…because it’s all small stuff.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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