Let No One Come Between You

By Fawn Weaver on Wednesday, June 27, 2012

This post is a continuation of my interview with Sandy, an HWC member and happy wife of 53 years.  It is also a part of my journey to 7 continents and 12 countries in search of the secret to a happy marriage.  My first stop was San Diego, California, where the beaches are endless and the sun sparkles off the shore.

In yesterday’s post, Sandy gave us one of her secrets to a happy marriage: Have no plan B; it distracts from plan A.  And today she gives us another: Let no one come between you.  Now, these weren’t Sandy’s exact words; I have a thing with fun titles.  But the advice is 100% hers.

Letting no one come between you.  And to some extent, she meant quite literally.  They stayed physically connected.  Until the very end, Sandy enjoyed sitting on Jim’s lap.  Even when she’d picked up some weight and would ask him if she was too heavy.  He always assured her she was not.  They made time to go out on date nights fro the very begining of their marriage -especially after they had children- even if it was just to the local coffee shop.  

They put each other first.  Before any other earthly relationship.  God came first in their life and then each other.  Their children, although loved with every bit of their heart, did not take precedence over their marriage.  They knew their children would likely leave home after 18 years or so and head to college.  Then they would start a family of their own and come to visit maybe once a week (if that much).

Sandy and Jim wisely concluded the relationship that would remain once the time came for the children to go out on their own, was the one they should maintain: their marriage.  So many couples put other relationships, business, and hobbies ahead of quality time with their spouse.  Not these two.  They determined their greatest investment would be in their marriage, and each other.

Question: Is there any relationship, other than God, you hold in higher regard than your marriage?  Is there any person, other than God, you esteem higher than your spouse?  Is there a project you tend to with greater care than your husband?  Is that something you willing to change so your marriage can flourish?

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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