For Better, For Worse

By Fawn Weaver on Thursday, April 12, 2012

Most marriages, at least here in the US, are entered into soberly and by stating vows similar to these:

I, (Bride),
Take you, (Husband),
To be my lawfully wedded husband;
To have and to hold,
From this day forward,
For better, for worse,
For richer, for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
Till death do us part.

Think about that commitment made: For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer…till death do us part.  Yet, year after year, poor communication, finances, and incompatibility are some of the most common reasons given for the dissolution of marriage.  ”We grew apart,” so many are quick to point out.

As happily married women, we can decrease instances of divorce in every country where we live by doing one simple thing: reminding every friend we have – before they get married – of the vows they will state on their wedding day.  If we spend less time talking about the wedding dress, location, ring and cake and more time about the commitment they are about to make, we might be able to help one become better prepared for what lies ahead.  When was the last time you sat down with a girlfriend recently engaged and said, “Now, have you read your wedding vows?  Have you truly considered them?  Are you ready to pledge ‘Till death do you part?’ 

We help keep marriages together by reminding ourselves and our friends of the vows we committed to keep.  One of our club members, married 31 years, submitted this as a quick tip, “My parents have been married for 65 years! Whenever they attend a wedding, they hold hands as the vows are being spoken and repeat them silently, reaffirming their pledges to each other.” 

Families are the backbone of any society, within every country, throughout the world.  Divorce tears families apart.  It hardens the heart and leaves collateral damage all over the place. 

As women who are happily married, we have stories to share.  Don’t let another marriage go down without putting up a fight.  It is up to us to spread the good news on marriage and all the benefits it has to offer if one will just hang in there — for better or for worse.  Make the choice today to take an active role in decreasing our world’s divorce rate…one girlfriend at a time.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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