5 Fantastic Benefits of a Debt-Free Marriage

By Fawn Weaver on Monday, August 26, 2013

5 Fantastic Benefits of a Debt-Free Marriage

In 2008, motivated by the Great Recession (and a pretty excitable Nashville guy with the last name Ramsey), my husband and I became laser beam focused on paying off our debt.

At the time, we did it out of necessity.  The debt was beginning to feel like a cloud over our head ready to pour rain at any time.  

We took immediate action and five years later, I can tell you it was the best decision we ever made.

I can think of dozens of great reasons for paying off your debt.  But I’ll let the fabulous Dustin Riechmann share with you 5 benefits he and his wife, Bethany, experienced firsthand.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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This is Dustin and I am the guy behind EngagedMarriage.com.  A couple years ago, I shared our family’s story of how we paid off $54,500 in debt and the response was overwhelmingly positive.

I heard from a lot of people who were in the process of shedding their debt (or at least wanted to get started).

However, the reasons that I heard for becoming debt-free were mostly focused on the usual, more material motivations.  It seems that most people dream of paying off their debts to reclaim more freedom in their financial life.

The idea of getting creditors off their back and having more of their income to save or buy things to improve their quality of life was very appealing. 

Honestly, that was a big part of why my wife and I decided we wanted to become debt free, and we achieved that goal (other than our home mortgage) five years ago.

I think the purely financial benefits are pretty clear and widely written about.  Instead, I want to share with you some of the awesome marriage benefits that a debt-free lifestyle provides

While they weren’t our original motivation, our experiences in these areas have really grown our passion for getting (and staying) debt free.

5 FANTASTIC BENEFITS OF A DEBT-FREE MARRIAGE

1. Contentment

A funny thing happens when you get control of your money – you cling to it less.  With financial freedom comes a renewed focus on the things that really matter in life.  And when your values are in the right place, you depend much less on “stuff” and the false happiness that comes with it.

2. Communication

If you are married and you want to make substantial changes to your financial situation, you will need to talk…a lot.  The process of getting out of debt will require a real intimacy with your spouse and a deepening of the trust between you.  The spirit of teamwork you develop on your financial journey together carries over to other areas of your marriage as well.

3. Courage

If you have a lot of debt to pay off and/or you are already on a tight budget, achieving debt freedom will be a significant accomplishment.  When you meet a major goal, it fuels your faith in yourself and your ability to work alongside your spouse.  And it fills your relationship with the courage to face any challenge. 

4. Change (for your whole family)

When you decide to shed your payments, you are breaking a cycle that most of us have witnessed throughout our lives, and you are setting a new example for your own kids.  With a solid financial plan, you’ll actually have resources available to help with your children’s future, retire with dignity and have the freedom of time to spend more with your family.

Personally, the best benefit that we’ve experienced since paying off our consumer debt is an increased ability and desire to give.  When we are generous with the gifts we’ve been given, we can change not only our own family tree but a little piece of the world as well.

5. Comfort

I will be the first to say that money doesn’t solve all of your challenges, and no one should expect that debt freedom somehow brings instant happiness.  However, we certainly do sleep a little better at night knowing that we owe no one (other than our mortgage company ) and we have a healthy emergency fund in the bank.  This feeling of security and comfort is what financial peace is all about.

Debt Freedom Sounds Great, But How?

There are many great resources available to learn the mechanics of getting out of debt.  For us, like Fawn and her husband, it was Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps alongside a solid budget that provided the game plan we needed.  I would encourage anyone interested in paying off debt and building a solid financial plan to pick up Dave Ramsey’s very popular book the Total Money Makeover.

Establishing a game plan and garnering motivation from these resources is great.  However, I have to say that we have discovered the real key to becoming and remaining debt free: mindset.

You have to believe that it is possible.  And you have to want it.  Bad.

Read the five benefits above again, and talk to your spouse about them. If you have debt, take some time to discuss what would be different in your life if you paid everything off.  Only you can decide if financial freedom and going against cultural norms is worth it for your family.

How bad do YOU want it?

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, Dustin, for being our first guest blogger. I'm so excited to know you're also going to join us for another guest blog soon for the topic of great sex. That should be fun. Looking forward to it!

  • Christy Joy

    My husband and I embarked on the debt-free journey about two years ago with the help and encouragement of two great people who had already begun their debt shedding journey. I love the portion on communication because I think my husband would be blessed if I was more pro active, not just about spending less but about caring about spending less–if that makes any sense. I would really like for us to be able to relax a little more, knowing that we owed no one. This was a great reminder and kick in the butt! "Never underestimate radical vision."–Dave Ramsey

  • Christy Joy

    I would love to hear what some other wives thoughts about this topic. What's your take?

  • JSW

    This is a wonderful article and I encourage all families to embark on this journey. It takes guts, it takes vulnerability, and it takes discipline, but FREEDOM is on the other side and that makes for a more intimate and joyful marriage.

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, JSW! You sound like someone whose done this already. Awesome!

  • Fawn Weaver

    Christy Joy, You are so right. There is even great freedom in just caring about spending less and being more focused. We make ALOT of sacrifices each day – don't have cable, work out to video at home instead of at a yoga studio like I used to, eat lots of canned chicken salads for dinner, etc – but it's all worth it! We gained so much freedom when we paid off the $100,000+ debt we owed (sans mortgages) but we decided we wanted to keep going to TRULY be debt-free. Every time we have a can of soup for dinner instead of a tasty meal we think, "Just a little while longer and FREEDOM!" This may seem extreme but as you said, "Never underestimate radical vision!"

  • http://www.engagedmarriage.com Dustin

    Thanks so much for the opportunity to connect with the Happy Wives Club, Fawn!

    It's truly an honor to be here.

    Dustin

  • Fawn Weaver

    Thanks, Dustin! And it's truly our pleasure to have you here :) .

  • nicole

    Wow..such an amazing article. The five c's. For us…being newlyweds and all communication is key. I pray we can live a debt free lifestyle. A game plan is important for success. I plan on reading the book referenced in the article. Thank you for the pointers.

  • Fawn Weaver

    Nicole, you are so right in that a game plan is key. Keith and I used the same exact plan Dustin referenced to pay off over $100,000 in debt. Make sure to check out the blog series I just completed called Recession-Proof your marriage. It'll give you some steps to getting in the right mindset and finding the right plan for you and your hubby. Thanks for sharing!

  • Madmum

    You Need a Budget (YNAB) is also a great budgeting resource!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Is YNAB another budgeting tool or just an awesome reminder?

      • Dustin Riechmann

        YNAB is a fantastic, full-scale budgeting tool, Fawn. It does it all and also has a lot of cool features and app access. As a nerd, I reviewed and tried out all the top budgeting software, and it’s the one we prefer. I wrote a review here – http://www.engagedmarriage.com/finances-careers/you-need-a-budget-money-management-for-a-happy-marriage

        Dustin

        • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

          This is great, Dustin! Hubby and I have been trying to find a good budgeting tool (instead of the trusty, dusty excel spreadsheet we’ve been using for years :) ). I’ll definitely check this out!

          • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

            I love YNAB, Fawn. It is a terrific budgeting software.

  • AJ

    I am not very familiar with the details of Dave Ramsey, but does the definition of debt-free here mean that you still do have a mortgage?

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Some do, some don’t. We still have a mortgage (several, actually, because we invest in real estate). Dustin mentions also having a mortgage. Dave Ramsey puts mortgage in a different category to eventually be paid off but that is one debt that is also an asset so the focus is on paying off the debt that weighs over your head each day (if that makes sense :) ).

    • Dustin Riechmann

      We still have a mortgage, AJ.

      Dustin

  • Cassie

    We used Dave Ramsey’s baby steps to help us on our journey to become debt free! He has such great resources and I would recommend him to anyone!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      We had the exact same experience. I’m not an affiliate for Ramsey so I don’t make any money from referring his program. And yet, I’d scream Total Money Makeover from the mountain tops if I could. It helped my family tremendously!

    • Dustin Riechmann

      Right on, Cassie! I don’t think we’ll ever forget the day we called into Dave’s show to scream that we were debt free.

      Dustin

  • http://www.forbetterorwhat.com/ Rosemary: For Better — Or Wha

    I am happy to say that the only debt we have is our mortgage (and it will be paid off soon). Since our wedding day almost 28 years ago, we have made a point of paying our bills in full each month, so we have never had any credit card debt. We pay cash for our cars (yes, that means we have to save the money first) and keep them for a long time. The great thing about being debt free is that we always know how much we have and what we can afford. If there is anything extra, it can go into savings (because we do hope to retire some day) rather than paying off debt. It is really a great way to live.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      We all aspire to be like you, Rosemary! That is fabulous.

    • Dustin Riechmann

      Congratulations, Rosemary! We have lived the same way for almost five years now and agree with you about the peace that comes with being debt-free. Paying off your mortgage will be awesome, and we aspire to be like you on that front someday. :)

      Dustin

  • Christina

    I agree completely and can say this is very similar to what we’ve experienced in our family. After 2 1/2 years of hard work & staying focused on our debt-free goal, we paid off our last creditor 1 year ago. We do still have a home mortgage, but the payment is reasonable. Working together as a team to set and accomplish our financial goals has strengthened our marriage significantly! Our kids (ages 7 & 9) know the principles of Give, Save & Spend when they earn or receive money. Being able to “change our family tree” is very important to us, as we both grew up in homes where we learned terrible spending (and borrowing) habits. We cut up the cards and have never looked back! We are huge fans of Dave Ramsey’s principles and Baby Steps.

    • Dustin Riechmann

      Woot! Thanks so much for sharing, Christina!

      Dustin

  • Love Yarn

    I have to agree as well, after failing 3 times to handle the finances my husband took over and now we are total debt free EVEN our mortgage !! and we are 45 and 43
    Even tho we do not have little children our teenage boys are proving to be a handful and being debt free gave me the opportunity to stay home and be stress free about money.
    My husband taking over the money has totally changed our relationship for only the better. I respect if he says* honey, slow down at Hobby Lobby” lol !! because i remember the pressure of budgeting and he is now the CFO and the sole earner, thank you by the way honey.

  • Betsy

    I’m 26 and my husband is 31. We’ve been married for 3 years and a year ago we had the reality of our 84k+ debt smack us in the face. It’s mostly student loans, but it was time to start working on it. Since we got married, I’ve been slowly learning to clip coupons, shop sales and menu plan. We sold a car and since we live less than a mile from both schools we teach at, we’ve saved on transportation. I signed up for Capital One 360 accounts, which allowed us to successfully save for specific funds and budget food costs through a separate checking account. We were able to have $17,500 forgiven through the Teacher Loan Forgiveness Act, which got the momentum rolling on our loans! In one year, including the teacher forgiveness, we have paid off over 26k! Paying off debt is truly a lifestyle change that takes time to learn. But we have gotten so much better at communicating about money and being content to save for the material things we want most. Our goal is to pay off everything (but the mortgage) by August 2017, which is when we are taking a cruise to the Mediterranean (saved for ahead of time, of course) for my 30th birthday! I look forward to starting a family once we are debt free, and being able to move to the coast!

    • Wondergirl

      LOVE THIS! Similar situation here, 24 yr old with 32 yr old, I have 46k in debt, was at 53k in may, but I have paid off 7k since starting DAVE RAMSEY’s total money make over. My goal is to be able to marry my bf once I’m debt free and be able to buy a home. You comment is really motivating to see others in a somewhat similar situation. POSITIVE thoughts to you and your husband!

  • Rachel

    I appreciate articles like this. My husband and I are debt free and we work hard to remain so. It can be difficult at times not having like minded friends to encourage us, even my parents have poked fun of our lifestyle. These kind of articles remind me why we work so hard to remain debt free. Thank you!!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Awesome! Yes, remaining debt-free is soooooo important! Most of our friends and family aren’t like-minded but they see the freedom being debt-free has provided us and would like to one day get there. But yes, many will be naysayers if they can’t see it for themselves. But just keep on truckin’ and you’ll be so happy you did.