4 Important Reasons To Smile At Your Husband Every Single Day

By Carlie Kercheval on Monday, July 28, 2014

4 Important Reasons to Smile at Your Husband

I’ve been looking forward to sharing another article from Carlie Kercheval ever since she gave us this popular post on free and frugal ways celebrate our anniversaries (that’s been shared nearly 150,000 times)!

As a military wife and homeschooling mama of three, time is scarce.  So that’s why I’m so grateful she’d take a moment out of her jam packed schedle to write this post for us.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Over the last 14-plus years of our marriage, I cannot think of a day that we were together that I didn’t smile at my husband.

To many, smiling is no big deal. But the truth is, it can make your husband feel loved, respected, empowered and desired. And I know for me, it is important that my husband feel all of those securities in our marriage (and more).

I remember the first time my husband made me laugh after our wedding. It was the first night of our honeymoon in Kaua’i. While he had made me laugh countless times prior to our first night as a married couple, something was just so fresh and new about it all.

I remember the smile on my face that night, full of love, respect, and desire for my new husband. And so does he. As a matter of fact he references it often. He tells me how he already knew I was the one he’d spend the rest of his life with, but that my smile that night somehow made it that much more concrete.

4 Reasons To Smile At Your Husband Every Single Day

1. Because you love him. It’s as simple as that. You love that man – and he loves you. What’s not to smile about? Even when you are going through a tough time in your marriage, don’t forget to smile at the one you vowed to spend the rest of your life with. It will help carry you through some of the roughest times with great joy and peace.

2. Because you want to empower him.  In this popular Ted talk, the hidden power of smiling was revealed.  Did you know that one smile can generate the same level of brain stimulation as up to 2,000 bars of chocolate?  ”Smiling can help reduce the level of stress-enhancing hormones like cortisol, adrenaline and dopamine, increase the level of mood-enhancing hormones like endorphin and reduce overall blood pressure.”  Smiling is contagious so becoming a smile inducer for your husband unleashes all the health and life benefits that come from this powerful facial expression. 

3. Because you respect him. I can’t think of another man on this earth that I respect more than my husband. I value him in a way that I didn’t think I could ever value another human being. I know for sure (because he’s told me) that when my husband is sharing his dreams with me or asking me to help him and I look at him and smile – he knows in his heart that I respect him as a man and as my husband. And that makes me happy!

4. Because you desire him. If you’ve spent any length of time here at The Happy Wives Club, you know that sexual intimacy is a large part of a happy marriage. And it should be. One of the wonderful blessings about being married to my best friend is the simple fact that I am also able to have physical and emotional intimacy with him! How awesome is that? And believe me, when your husband feels desired, it makes him excited to be an active part of your marriage!

YOUR TURN: How does your smile make your husband feel? I am excited to hear all about what a smile can do to brighten your husband’s day! Share with me in the comments below.

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Carlie Kercheval is a happily married stay-at-home homeschooling mom. She and her college sweetheart have been blessed with 3 precious children to raise while traveling the world as a military family. Carlie is the founder of Today's Frugal Mom™ and Managing Your Blessings. Carlie and her husband co-author the Learning to Speak Life™ family Bible studies and together they co-host the Learning to Speak Life™ Podcast. When she is not busy enjoying her family and the great outdoors, you can typically find her cozied up somewhere under a blanket with a good book.

 

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  • Angela Lopez

    I am fortunate to be able to work at the same place. I like to shoot him a smile across the room to let him know that no matter what crap is going on at work, he’s always got me on his side to love and understand him. I can actually see him relax when he smiles back.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      What a dream to be able to work together! Very cool.

  • Temeka

    I’ve been with my husband for 17 years now and he has always said from day one that my smile is my best feature. If I don’t smile at him he says he doesn’t feel good about himself that day… I thought he was just telling me that to get me to smile because I tend to be not so pleasant in the morning lol . After reading this I see he may really think my smile makes his day better :)
    Thanks for the post!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      It really does make us more beautiful – inside and out. Smiling as I type this! :)

      • Tahilor

        Yes Fawn,
        I learned that, smile makes a person beautiful, but many people, especially women don’t know this tip. Thanks for mentioning it

  • http://www.TheNourishingHome.com/ Kelly@TheNourishingHome

    What a terrific reminder to smile! So appreciate this post, Carlie! Instead of shooting a worried or concerned look at my hubby when he’s expressing he’s had a hard day, I always try to remember to smile and hug him and let him know how much we appreciate how hard he works and that I’m here to listen. Reading this has made me realize why smiling is such a key to helping your hubby and others feel important and loved. Smiling truly is powerful! :)

  • Rachel

    My husband always tries to make me laugh…….yet often I just roll my eyes etc… BUT when I do smile and laugh, it tells him he IS funny and loved and wanted and my favourite person in the world!