3 Ways to Increase Spiritual Unity in Your Marriage

By Carlie Kercheval on Monday, February 17, 2014

3 Ways to Increase Spiritual Unity in Your Marriage

Spirituality is something I don’t talk about often here.  

A part of that is when I set out to create this community, I did so desiring for it to be a spring of hope for every woman no matter age, number of years married, religion, culture, background, or socio-economic status.

I’m so grateful, four years later, this continues to be a place women can come no matter their background or faith.

When I read this post by HWC contributor, Carlie Kercheval, I never thought twice about whether or not it would be well received.  And I, too, believe that although your faith may be different from Carlie’s or mine, these principals are universal.

Staying spiritually connected in my marriage has been a bedrock.  Our faith has carried us through a number of storms and we’ve come out on the other side stronger and wiser because of our faith in God and one another. 

Although I cannot say this with absolute certainty, I’m fairly certain our marriage would not be this strong without our spiritual connection.  Mind, body and spirit…we’ve stay connected on every level.

My guess is it is the same with you and this brief reminder to feed our collective souls will draw you closer to one another and will strengthen your faith.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Often times as married couples, we can get caught up in the physical and mental aspects of marriage – neglecting the spiritual side. For my husband and I, the spiritual side is just as important as the physical and mental. In the more than 13 years my husband and I have been married, we’ve always noticed a stark contrast in our marriage when we were neglecting to nurture our own spirit leading to lack of spiritual intimacy between each other.

My husband and I happen share the same faith, we are both Christians. We even met at a Bible study during our undergrad days at Washington State University (go Cougs!). While I realize not everyone reading this will share the same faith with us or their spouse, I believe the principles are universal.

1. Resolve to Pray For Your Spouse

Sometimes this can be a difficult thing to do when you are facing hard times. Sure, it’s easy to pray when things are going well, but it’s an entirely different story when things are not so easy-going. Resolving to pray for your spouse no matter the circumstance can help prevent future rough patches in your marriage.

2. Study Your Faith Together

This has been one part of our marriage that we have fought hard for. When we don’t read the Bible together, a distancing occurs. It occurs from a spiritual perspective first, and then translates into distancing both mentally and physically. However, we find that if we read our Bible and share our faith, it builds up and continues to grow our spiritual intimacy with one another.

3. Create Positive Confession Lists

For us, we do this often. We try to come together once a month and do some goal setting for our marriage, family, and personal lives. In keeping with setting our goals, we always want to choose positive words (for us primarily from the Bible) to speak life into our situation. We will print out our confession lists and hang them on our mirror, keep a copy in our vehicles, and any other handy place we see fit. This has worked out very well for us and helps our confidence in one another, God, our faith and our marriage. And it is an excellent way to see the powerful impact that positive words have!

While every couple has their own idea of what spiritual intimacy looks like, the important part is making it a priority in your marriage. Even if you and your spouse have different views on things, find a way to commune with one another on a spiritual level. It will bless your marriage and build a stronger foundation for it! Believe me, it works!

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Carlie Kercheval is a happily married stay-at-home homeschooling mom. She and her college sweetheart have been blessed with 3 precious children to raise while traveling the world as a military family. Carlie is the founder of Today's Frugal Mom™ and Managing Your Blessings. Carlie and her husband co-author the Learning to Speak Life™ family Bible studies and together they co-host the Learning to Speak Life™ Podcast. When she is not busy enjoying her family and the great outdoors, you can typically find her cozied up somewhere under a blanket with a good book.

 

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  • http://www.modernmarried.com/ Maggie Reyes

    Oh I love this! [says the new-agey spiritual gal who loves any name people want to give to the great Creator] I love the concept of spiritual intimacy and “speaking life into” your spouse. I just think that’s always a good idea, no matter when kind of faith you practice.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yes! Life and death are in the power of the tongue and we are so blessed to be able to speak life into our spouse and marriage each and every day.

    • http://www.learningtospeaklife.com/ Carlie Kercheval

      Thanks, Maggie :) I know that our spiritual walks are such a personal decision, but I really do think that there are some things that we just cannot deny that cross those boundaries :) Have wonderful day!!

  • Latorial D. W. Faison

    Great article, and thanks for sharing. Congratulations on the great things you’re doing individually and together with your spouse. From one keeping busy, happlly married, military wife and mom to another, “You go girl!”

    • http://www.learningtospeaklife.com/ Carlie Kercheval

      Thank you, Latorial! It is always so awesome to hear from a fellow military spouse :) Have a wonderful day!