Why Did You Get Married?

By Fawn Weaver on Monday, November 25, 2013

Why Did You Get Married

Years ago, a movie came out called Why Did I Get Married?  The ads indicated there would be plenty of drama but also a redemptive quality to the movie; reminding us all why we got married.

Sitting in the theater, as the movie came an end, the first thing I thought was, “Man, if my marriage were like that, I’d have no idea why I’d gotten married?”  

Thank goodness for us, marriage doesn’t have to be filled to the brim with stress, strife, drama, fussing and fighting.

It can be wonderful, beautiful, transformative, and the greatest partnership in life.

I was reminded of that this weekend as Keith was talking me down off a ledge.  Not literally, of course, but figuratively.  

Last week was tough.  My to-do list seemed never-ending.  Most days began at 4am and went well into the night.  I was exhausted.  I felt defeated.

A lot of amazing and wonderful things also happened throughout the week, but as is often the case for most of us, I was fixated on the one thing that I wanted to see happen that hadn’t yet materialized.  

Isn’t it funny how we can oftentimes miss 20 blessings in search of the one that seems to elude us?

Maybe it’s just me.

Keith challenged my thoughts.  He questioned my wavering faith.  And then he helped me to right my wrong thinking.  I’d lost my focus and it had taken me on a stress-induced roller coaster of emotions.

That wasn’t pretty, I assure you.

But there he was, as he always has been.  Ready to lift me up, wipe my tears, hold me tight, there to encourage me, and to hold a mirror to my face.  You are destined for greatness.  You are already great.  A singular setback doesn’t negate all of your success.  Get it together, my love.

He sat me on his lap, rested my head on his shoulder and prayed.  He prayed that I’d remember we’re not in this alone and it’s okay for me to get some rest.  I’m not a super hero.  He prayed that my faith would be strengthened and that this time would not be remembered by the stress that was felt but by the foundation of greatness that was laid.

Entering one of my favorite times of the year, Thanksgiving week, I thought about his words, his encouragement and our partnership.  My gratitude for not only what he says and what he does, but simply for who he is.  I have no idea where I would be if I didn’t say, I do, ten marvelous years ago.

So if you ask me why I got married, it’s a very simple question for me to answer.  Because I would have been crazy not to.  My life was made a thousand times greater the moment he uttered, “You are my life.  Would you do me the honor of being my wife.”  It was changed instantly and it’ll never be the same.

Marriage is an incalculable gift. One not to be taken for granted.  Something to give thanks for every day.  Not just on Thanksgiving but every day.

So to my husband, Keith Edward Weaver, you are my life.  Thank you for the honor of being your wife.

And to you, I pose the same question I just answered above.  Why did you get married?

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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  • http://sbrobst.wordpress.com/ Sharon Brobst

    Tomorrow we will celebrate 30 years and to be completely honest I got married because he loved me and I needed a way out! But oh how God has used this amazing, wonderful man in my life. Today I love him more than I ever thought possible. God is good and His love truly does redeem us!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yes, he does! Congratulations on 30 years of marriage, Sharon!! Happy anniversary and many, many more.

  • Christine Case

    I got married because I couldn’t imagine a day without him. We have been blessed with 24 years together and it has been a beautiful love story <3

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Love to hear about beautiful love stories. You’re celebrating your silver anniversary next year! That is awesome.

  • DNA4EVER

    We got married because together we are much stronger as a unit. He has made me healthier and happier and I am his sunshine to a cloudy day and we could not imagine spending it with anyone else :)

  • Thalia Miller

    We got married because for the first time in my life I let God choose for me and it was clear His choice for me was far better than any attempts I’d ever made on my own.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Sounds like your creator might know you a wee better than you know yourself :) .

  • J (Anonymous)

    Why did I get married? I needed someone else to kill the roaches. ;) Just kidding.

    I got married because he balanced me — not completed me, but balanced me. And I balanced him. We made each other better, and I wanted to spend my life becoming more intimate with him. (And he has killed the few roaches we’ve encountered in our marriage. Good man.)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Oh, I love that J! “…not completed me, but balanced me.” So true!

  • Lauren Lawson

    We got married because we completed each other with God being first in our relationship and personally, I was home when I was in his arms. I had never connected with someone that way before. <3

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      His arms…my favorite home. :)

  • Stephanie F

    That’s so beautiful…*sniff* :)

    It’s hard for me to answer this question in one little post. But in few words, I got married because I wanted to improve the way I love and/or learn to love better, and also to share a partnership with someone so we can be each other’s special someone for the rest of our lives.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yes! Same here. <3

  • http://www.modernmarried.com/ Maggie Reyes

    This is so beautiful Fawn! Thanks for sharing such a deep and tender moment. Your hubby is such anchor of faith and love.

    When I think about why we got married, I remember saying good night after a date and feeling the physical reaction in my body to saying goodbye. I had never experienced that before.

    We felt like we were part of each other and we both had an overwhelming sense of rightness. We did a lot of classes and workshops and really prepared to be married, but that feeling was undeniable. Next May is our 7th anniversary and I am even more in love and fascinated by my hubby now than I was then.

  • KC3

    God gave me a best friend when I was 15, and then I grew up and married him. God gave me my best friend very early on because I needed a friend that understood what was happening. And then I looked at him again one day and realized I loved him. I married him because he is my best friend and God literally made him for me! Why on earth would I say “no” to the best blessing God has ever given me?