5 Unique Ways to Make Your Man Feel Special in 5 Minutes or Less

By Fawn Weaver on Thursday, October 10, 2013

5 Unique Ways to Make Your Man Feel Special in 5 Minutes or Less

If there is anything we, as women, seem to need more of each day it’s time.  

More minutes, more hours, more days to get everything done.

As the wife to one heck of a man, I want him to know every moment of every day how much I love and adore him.  I don’t want him to ever feel as though he’s playing second fiddle to my work or various passions in life.

So how do I do this, while ensuring everything important on my to-do list for the day gets checked off?  Incrementally.

Little things throughout the day.  Pauses where there’s nothing else on my mind but that fabulous man of mine.  

These ideas aren’t earth shattering or life altering, but they are a way to let your hubby know how much he means to you, no matter how busy your day may become.

5 Unique Ways to Make Your Man Feel Special in 5 Minutes or Less

Walk Away From the Computer, Pick Up the Phone.  Whether you work from home, an office or are a stay-at-home mom, I don’t know of one woman who doesn’t spend hours on the computer each day.  

Be intentional about walking away from the computer, closing your laptop, and pick up the phone to check in and ask how his day is going.  The important thing about this phone call is for your attention to be 100-percent on him.  Attentive and interested.  You’d be surprised how your voice in the middle of the day can give him an immediate boost.

Pocket Gratitude Note.  What area of his clothes is he bound to check at least once throughout his day?  His back pant pocket, wallet, shirt pocket?  Spend a few minutes thinking about something he recently did that caused you to feel grateful, and then write it in a small note and pack it in one of his pockets.  Let him know how much he is appreciated.

Pick Up His Favorite Treat.  The next time you are at the store, don’t just pick up what is on your list.  What is his “guilty pleasure” you can find in the grocery store aisle?  Sweet or savory?  Whatever it is, pick it up and then have it waiting for him when he arrives home (or when you walk through the door).

Reach Out to His Family to Say Hello.  If you’re not already close to his family, this will mean even more (and you may want to check out this post on building a better relationship with your in-laws).  

If you’re like most, you rarely see or talk to your in-laws unless your spouse is around.  But there is something about reaching out to them and then casually mentioning it to your husband later.  ”Hey Babe, guess what your Mom did today?  She took her first yoga class.”  Well, maybe that won’t be what she did but you get the point.  Showing interest in his family signals that they mean as much to you as they do to him.

Give Him a Quickie.  Hmmmm…where is your mind with this one?!  Go online and watch a quick tutorial on giving the perfect neck or foot massage (YouTube has tons of tutorials) and then practice what you learn on your husband.  The key to this is the tutorial because he’ll feel like he has his own personal masseuse (and really, what masseuse will ever be as good as you!).

QUESTION: What other suggestions do you have that can be added to this list? 

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

 

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  • MassageGirl02

    I am a licensed Massage Therapist and there is nothing quick about a Massage… when you start… they want you to continue!! LOL!!!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      LOL! Good point :) . Any pointers for us ladies wanting to give our hubbies a great neck massage?

      • Kate.

        I’m not a licensed massage therapist, but my suggestion is to keep in mind that neck muscles extend outward, so don’t just work in the neck. Add out across the shoulders, down along the spine and under the shoulder blades, and up to the lower part of the skull. Grab a light oil, like grapeseed, and add some essential oils for a soothing treat. Lavender is calming and I find get over to be a great scent, especially for men. The aromatherapy aspect will help with easing tension and will give that “quickie” and extra dose of something special.

        • Kate.

          Autocorrect! I find *vetiver* to be a great scent for men. It’s earthy, masculine, soothing and great for easing muscle tension.

          • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

            Adding aromatherapy is a great suggestion. Thanks!

  • Lourinda

    My husband is the sole provider in our house. Being an real estate agent myself, i deposit my monies into his account. Each month when he brings home his salary cheque, i encourage my children to go to him and say thank you for the hard work. And not just at the end of each month, during the month as well. Especially when we buy clothes or toys or just grocery shopping. This is now a good habit of our children. This makes his feel good about himself, i know. And i know he appreciates me for encouraging our children on all levels.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      That’s great. A bit confused though. You’re a real estate agent and you receive monies so why do you consider him the sole provider of the house? Is it because you are paid on commission so that money can’t be counted on?

      • Lourinda

        Hi Fawn. Yes, i don’t count on commission. It just feels good to let my Husband handle the finances. And i love to see the way his face lights up when the kids show their appreciation as well. He always acknowledges when i receive commission, and he also encourages our children to do the same. It just feels so good to see his reaction every time we acknowledge him for his hard work and all his efforts.

        • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

          Oh, I get it! So he’s not the sole provider for the house, he makes sure everything is taken care of for you and your family. Yes, I know alot of hubbies who handle the household finances (mine is one) and it works really well.

  • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

    Great and easy to implement suggestions, Fawn. I would add this: to do something that he likes to do that you generally say no to. Perhaps it’s taking an impromptu short walk, or having him show you the details of his latest project, or asking him to explain something he’s offered to before, but you have turned him down.

    To say yes means that you are letting your hubbie know that because something is important to him, it is also important to you. Speaking from experience, I adore it when my husband is interested in my interests!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      LOVE this, Kim! It’s SO true. Keith is an aficionado of cars; especially, ones he never intends to buy. At first, I would never look at them because I know he likes them only for the purpose of looking not buying. Big ole’ waste of time, right? I was wrong. It’s not a waste of time because he enjoys it so now I look forward to looking at cars with him because I love to see him smile.

  • Cynthia

    Wonderful ideas! I’m going to call my mother-in-law, put a surprise love note on a post-it on the back of his work i.d., and find out how to give him a neck and hand massage. Thanks for the inspiration!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yeah!! Go Cynthia! <3

  • deb

    In my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist…I find the “Love Languages” for most men are l) words of affirmation (telling him you appreciate him), thank you for ____, and thank you for _____. and 2) Physical touch. Men want respect above all else. I see my man beam when I tell him how great he is and look sullen if I “criticize”.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      I love The 5 Love Languages. I’ve actually shared this several times on this site. When my hubby and I took the assessment, what I thought for sure was his love language was actually mine. So I highly recommend it too.

      • Vanessa

        My husband and I both read that book when we were going through our pre marital classes required by our church. Even though we are newlyweds (October 5, 2013) we still talk about this book and will tell each other “that emptied my love tank a little” or if I do something positive he will make a goofy “blub blub blub” noise to let me know I’ve filled his love tank some. It was a very positive tool for us! Definitely makes us think a little more about our actions toward the other!

  • Rona Berry-Morin

    I love these tips.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yeah – thanks!!

  • LuAnn Braley

    Great ideas. I’m going to do the little sticky note thing tomorrow!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Fantastic!

  • Cindy

    When my hubby is working he doesn’t get home until 7pm and it’s already dark so I take out the garbage for him, it’s not much but it lets him know I care!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      That’s great. I know he has to appreciate that!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      That’s fantastic. I know he has to appreciate that.

  • Kate.

    My husband grew up with his Italian grandmother’s cooking. I’ve tried to learn some authentic recipes so I can surprise him with a taste of his childhood. I don’t speak Italian, but my meatballs have reached “masterful” status!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Oh yum! Do share the recipe one day :) .

  • Guest

    I find that listening attentively to him tell me about his work shift does wonders for his manly ego (the good kind…not the negative “ego”). I don’t understand much of what he is talking about. He enjoys it if I listen and respond appropriately without my phone/laptop in front of me. He also likes when I ask about things that I don’t understand so that he can teach me about his work. It isn’t always that interesting to me, but I have decided that it is important because it is so good for him to tell me about it!

    Obviously, this is a spiritually specific thing, but I was told by a male mentor of my husband that it does wonders for a man when his wife prays for him specifically when they pray together. I have done this and it really bolsters his confidence to hear me pray for him rather than to just *know* that I pray for him.

  • Guest

    I find that listening attentively to him tell me about his work shift does wonders for his manly ego (the good kind…not the negative “ego”). I don’t understand much of what he is talking about. He enjoys it if I listen and respond appropriately without my phone/laptop in front of me. He also likes when I ask about things that I don’t understand so that he can teach me about his work. It isn’t always that interesting to me, but I have decided that it is important because it is so good for him to tell me about it!

    Obviously, this is a spiritually specific thing, but I was told by a male mentor of my husband that it does wonders for a man when his wife prays for him specifically when they pray together. I have done this and it really bolsters his confidence to hear me pray for him rather than to just *know* that I pray for him. :)

  • Devion

    I find that listening attentively to him tell me about his work shift does wonders for his manly ego (the good kind…not the negative “ego”). I don’t understand much of what he is talking about. He enjoys it if I listen and respond appropriately without my phone/laptop in front of me. He also likes when I ask about things that I don’t understand so that he can teach me about his work. It isn’t always that interesting to me, but I have decided that it is important because it is so good for him to tell me about it!

    Obviously, this is a spiritually specific thing, but I was told by a male mentor of my husband that it does wonders for a man when his wife prays for him specifically when they pray together. I have done this and it really bolsters his confidence to hear me pray for him rather than to just *know* that I pray for him.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      The good kind…I like that! :)

  • Stefanie

    When he’s working from home, a cup of tea on his desk without saying a word does wonders. Also making not just his family, but his friends feel welcome in the home. My husband really appreciates those things.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Nice!

  • Jane

    Before he leaves the house for work, pray for him. Declare blessing favor and protection over him throughout the day. There is nothing more special than giving him the peace from God through his wife’s mouth.

  • alley

    I give him a garden hose shower in the backyard. He likes it very much when it extends beyond 5 minutes…

  • Unhappy guy

    My fiancé rarely does anything nice for me. We’ve been together for 7 years and I can count on 1 hand how many times she had brought me a pair or shoes or a nice shirt. Currently I work seven days a week and double shifts just to make ends meet. My wife isn’t working and has been having a had time finding solid work for the last five years. For my 30th birthday all I got was a card . That was very hurtful. She never makes me breakfast in bed, she reallly doesn’t cook dinner but will be the first to want to eat out. When she makes our plates hers is alway bigger than mine. She does the bAre minimum around the house. Will only start to cleAn only if she sees me gearing up to clean. She doesn’t check in on my elderly mother but knows that a important to me. She’s an amazing mom but a bad spouse. I’m sick and tired and don’t know what to do. I’ used to always go the extra mile for her but I don’t want to do anything for her anymore. I’m only sticking around for our child at this point. And she clearly doesn’t think anything is wrong. Maybe I’m crazy or something…

    • Gogo11111

      Maybe you need to tell her how you feel.i often hear men joke that they are not mind readers when it comes to what women want and it’s the same for us. If anything stocked in mine or my husbands head and we start to become resentful we sit down and have an open talk, we but the good with the bad, eg, I don’t feel you do much round the house I go out for work and I come home and it’s still in a mess and it makes me not want to bother any more, I’d really like it if you could try and tidy a little while I am out. Them come to a arrangement about a treat. I stay at home with out baby but he understands kids are hard work and we take it in turns to cook as I don’t always have the time to after doctors play groups cleaning washing nap times cooking breast feeding. You also need to appreciate the things she does do, it made me not want to do things when my husband never thanked me for a clean ironed shirt for the next day and dinner on the table when he got home our having hot water on for a bath, I spoke to him about how it made me feel and now he does.