6 Ways to Love Your Husband…Even Better

By Susan Merrill on Thursday, January 15, 2015

6 Ways to Love Your Husband Even Better

I am so excited to continue this countdown to the 5th anniversary of the Happy Wives Club by posting the 20 most popular articles of all time!

Coming in at #18 is a post I’m so excited to share again. It was originally written on August 7, 2013 and is as relevant today as it was then.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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In college I had a roommate who always had a boyfriend—always.  Boys just liked her, lots of them. 

She was cute, smart, and fun but there was more to it and it didn’t take me long to figure out why so many boys liked her.  She simply, openly, adored them. 

My roommate genuinely saw the best in everyone and she told them.  If a guy was strong, she told him.  If he was smart, she told him.  If he was sweet, she told him. 

It wasn’t manipulative on her part.  She was just as complimentary and encouraging to girlfriends, teachers and everyone else.   

Adore by definition means to regard with the utmost esteem, love, and respect.  Men, especially, crave that intoxicating combination of respect and admiration; it’s just the way they’re wired. 

In the same way, much has been written about how women are wired to crave love. So, my thought is this… if you give your honey some sweet adoration, you might really enjoy what comes back—a little more lovin’!

Even if you don’t feel like adoring your husband, try!  I confess it is not easy for me; I am not the adoring type.  But he needs it and it will make him a better, more confident man. Here are my ideas on 6 ways to love your husband with adoration.

1. Adore Him Unconditionally. Don’t wait to adore him until he’s nicer, makes more money or is more affectionate with you.  The key is to love him as he–even if he’s not 100 percent adorable.

2. Adore Him For What He Does.  Take notice of what he does and make it a big deal. Tell him and be specific:  “You are such a great dad; our kids just love you.”  “You did an awesome job fixing the garage door. “

3. Adore Him Physically. If you don’t adore him in this area, who will?  This is something only the two of you share. You don’t have to wait until you’re in bed together; whisper a compliment at breakfast: “I was thinking about last night and how great…”   You get the idea.

4. Adore Him By Listening.  Men like and need their wife’s attention. When you listen well you will become his confidant and gain greater access to what he struggles with and needs encouragement about.

5. Adore Him By Putting Him First.  You can’t tell your 3 year old to wait while you give your husband a back massage.  But, you can find creative ways to carve out time for him. 

6. Adore Him So Others Can See It and Hear It. A compliment given at home is one thing; a compliment given in front of others is magnified big time.  So the next time you’re out with your husband with friends or family, build him up in front of everyone.

QUESTION: I am going to challenge myself to adore my husband in a different way every day for a week.  I’m one idea short, so how do you adore your husband?

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Susan Merrill

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Susan Merrill, author of “The Passionate Mom,” is wife and mother of five. She is director of iMOM.com, want-to-be blogger, and the “very imperfect” Merrill family manager. Susan lives in Tampa, Fla., with her husband, and two or, depending on the day, up to five of her children ages 17 to 22. On those days she happily forsakes all other responsibilities to run a bed and breakfast /laundromat for her college-aged children. Read more about her adventures in mommy world at www.susanme.com and follow her on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

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  • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

    Thanks, Susan! This post is awesome. <3

  • Luanna Kennedy

    Love it!!!!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      So happy you loved it as much as me! <3

  • Jo Rose

    Adore him amd write it down. I love leaving llittle love notes for my husband. They don’t have to be long or complicated. Thank him for everyday things like being a great provider or spending time with me or the kids. :-)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Great idea! My mother used to write the notes in lipstick on their bathroom mirror. And we’d better not touch it! :)

  • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

    Wonderful suggestions, Susan! Adore him by treating him as an adult, not as a child.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yes! Great one.

  • Sally

    At our house, food is a love language, so I love to adore him with that – surprising him with his favorite dessert, trying a new recipe with ingredients I know he likes, or just having a beer poured and waiting for him when he gets in the door is a show of affection. I also like to take Jo Rose’s route, and leave post-its everywhere he’ll find them to build him up. However, I had so much fun hiding them he jokes that he’ll be finding them when we get a house are moving out of here.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Oh, how much fun! I LOVE this idea. Maybe I’ll start stuffing notes in his jacket and pants pockets and randomly in places where he wouldn’t think to check.

  • Keli

    Do something with your husband that he really enjoys, even if it’s not your favorite. Sit down and watch a football game with him, go to a baseball game with him, etc. Spend time with him doing something he likes, and this shows that you respect the things that mean a lot to him.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      So important. My husband is a coffee connoisseur. I could go the rest of my life without it. But because he loves it so much, we spend an hour every single morning sipping on coffee and chatting about our upcoming day and overall dreams in life. My favorite part of every day.

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Like watching shark week this week–all week? My husband and my two sons and I have been camped out every night. I am now a Megalodon expert :)

  • A Heart to Know

    When you’re sitting next to husband (driving in the car, sitting in a church service, watching tv…) squeeze his bicep. It’s just a small, symbolic gesture, but it communicates that you admire his strength. Seemingly instinctually, he’ll “flex”. (My husband smiles – and flexes – every single time!)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Oh yeah…the power of touch.

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      This is true and very easy to do!

    • Laura Ireland

      MINE TOO!!! Lol…I love this idea!!! I attempt to adore my husband by expanding on my cooking skills….He loves that too…its my new hobby…finding healthy good for us food, that I can prepare fresh/ by scratch but is tasty and filling….I’m affectionate by nature….so squeezing the arm thing…well it WORKS!!! :-)

  • Izzy

    I get up 20 minutes earlier than he does (if I’m not up with baby already) & put the coffee on. That way he has a full thermos for work.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Nice! I’m sure he loves you for that :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Hehe, my hubby makes my coffee and I do adore him for that!

  • Kelli wood

    I think the toughest one on the list for me is being a good listener. He says I interrupt him a lot and I know it’s true! I do wake up with him at 3:30, make his coffee, breakfast and pack his lunch. And sit and watch ESPN With him . He explains it to me and even though its a short time in the morning, I love it. I get to go back to sleep too after he goes to work! All the above comments ring true! Also I send him scriptures via text during the day and tell him I appreciate his hard work etc. he loves it. The bicep flex thing is sooooo true ! :) and of course a good meal says love all over it! I’m a very affectionate person to him and I think he loves that too!

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Kelli I am laughing because we just spent a week away with friends–very honest friends. Jay our friend wrote a blog about an inside look at the Merrill’s marriage and one of his criticisms of us was that we interrupt each other all the time! http://www.markmerrill.com/2013/07/30/a-behind-the-scenes-look-at-my-marriage/

      • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

        We ALL need friends like this! Iron sharpens iron… Love it.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Kelli, I used to be the same way (and still do the interrupting thing every now and again). Don’t know if this will help you but, for me, what I found is the reason I interrupted is while he was talking I’d be thinking of a response. Now, when he is talking, I force myself not to allow responses to come to mind. If I feel one coming on, I’ll slap it down. It took a while for this to sink in but now it’s second nature (well, most of the time any way :) ).

      • maria

        This is my exact problem. I was so proud of myself the first I actually let him say his full thought. I felt good but man, I was sweating! I really wanted to butt in :)

        • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

          LOL! I know exactly what you mean :) .

  • sunnymolls

    I am in my second marriage and I want to adore my husband by making sure he gets the best of me as much as my children. As a single mother, my life was devoted to my children and it’s easy to expend all my energy on them and my husband would get only leftovers.
    When I get my children to bed, I’m tempted to tackle the dishes, the laundry, etc. I’m attempting to tackle him first! Whether it’s actually making love or just an intentional foot rub, I want to communicate how much I love and adore him in a way that he can ‘hear.’
    I did this last night, and was pleasantly surprised this morning to find out he had started the dishes and made coffee for me! I want to get it right this time!

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Tackle your husband first–mine would love that, great word picture.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      “I’m attempting to tackle him first!” LOVE that!

  • Deborah

    I adore my husband by making sure we have one whole day just for us to be together and have fun. It’s easier now that we are empty nesters, but even when the kids were young, we found a way to spend at least few hours alone on one of his days off. I think that alone time is so very important because it shows your spouse how important they are to you, it gives you time to take a breath and appreciate each other and it builds your communication and your relationship with each other.

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      I will be an empty nester soon so I love that–a whole day of just Mark!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      We do this too! I wonder if you schedule it in your calendar like it’s an unmovable meeting so anyone that tries to get together you can say, “Sorry, that day is already booked”? That’s what we’ve learned to do to protect our one-on-one day together. What about you?

    • LizzyBee

      We have a date night each week. Sometimes we stay in & snuggle, other times we head out on the town. It’s great to have time just for us, when we focus on each other & forget about work, kids, church, home repairs…just for a few hours. It’s our sanctuary. i know a couple that does this weekly also. They’ve been married 30 years & say they are still in their honeymoon phase. They act like it too, so cute & doting on each other. I hope that’s me & my hubby in 30 years. :)

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Awesome! Thanks honey…can’t wait for all that adoration! Love, love, love….

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      You are the bombhizzle! (did I get points for this?) hehe.

      • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

        You too are too cute!

  • LizzyBee

    I adore my husband by doing the little things I know he likes. I will wear his favorite color, do my hair the way he likes it (He likes it when I do a side braid), I will make his favorite meal every Sunday (magic pot roast-it’s what made him fall in love with me), I surprise him with M&M’s & a Coke or plain vanilla ice cream ( his favorite indulgences)
    He is so adoring to me, constantly wanting to love on me, compliment me & tell me he loves me. Happy King….Happy Queen!

  • The Leap Day Lady

    By looking him in the eyes and smiling the “I love you” smile.

  • Gladiator in Heels

    I adore my husband by wearing certain perfumes he likes, by sending him cutesy text messages every night (he works 2nd shift). We have this lil game we play when we’re together, we tickle each other, to see who will throw in the towel first. Then I will write the “score” for the day on the whiteboard above his desk, he sees it when he gets home at night.

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      I love competition and that sounds very romantic and fun.

  • Vimbayi C

    I want to adore my husband for his skills & attributes, and also for the loving acts he does for me & our son :D

  • SecretShopper

    Great post…I am going to challenge myself to adore him unconditionally… *wipes sweat from my forehead*

  • Melisa Mary Sophia

    7# Do something for him an act of service that requires no words
    <3 Surprise him with his favorite meal. Surprise him with a night of no kids. Give him a bubble bath. Attentively watch his favorite movie/show. Steel him away on a special trip. Send him flowers. Or hide a map in his car to a special place go there and have either a picnic, date, or a romantic night of passionate love making all in his honor.

  • CLUXE

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  • Mike Olivia

    Aceasta este mărturia mea despre munca buna a unui om care ma ajutat .. Numele meu este Olivia Mike , È™i am baza in viata London.My este înapoi ! După 8 ani de căsătorie , soÈ›ul meu ma părăsit È™i mi-a lăsat cu cei trei copii . M-am simÈ›it ca È™i cum viaÈ›a mea a fost pe cale să se încheie , È™i a fost care se încadrează în afară . Vă mulÈ›umim pentru o rolă vraja numit papa Justus care m-am întâlnit on-line . Pe de-o zi credincios , aÈ™a cum am fost de navigare prin intermediul internetului , am fost în căutarea pentru o bună rolă vraja care poate rezolva problemele mele . Am dat peste serie de mărturii despre acest rolă vraja special . Unii oameni a mărturisit că el a adus iubitul lor Ex înapoi , unii mărturisit că el restabileÈ™te uter , unele mărturisit că el poate arunca o vraja pentru a opri divorÈ› È™i aÈ™a mai departe . Nu a fost un anumit mărturie l-am văzut , era vorba despre o femeie numită har , ea a depus mărturie despre modul în care papa Justus adus iubitul ei Ex în mai puÈ›in de 72 de ore È™i la sfârÈ™itul mărturia ei a scădea papa Justus adresa de e -mail . După ce am citit toate acestea , am decis sa dau papa un try . L-am contactat prin e-mail È™i a explicat problema mea cu el . In doar 3 zile , soÈ›ul meu a venit înapoi la mine . Am rezolvat problemele noastre , iar noi suntem chiar mai fericiÈ›i decât înainte . papa Justus este într-adevăr un om talentat È™i înzestrat È™i i se va pentru a nu opri publicarea el, deoarece el este un om minunat … Dacă aveÈ›i o problemă È™i sunteÈ›i în căutarea pentru o adevărată È™i reală rolă vraja pentru a rezolva această problemă pentru tine . ÃŽncercaÈ›i mare papa Justus astăzi , el ar putea fi raspunsul la problema ta . Iată de contact lui :
    drabeljustus@gmail.com Mulțumesc mare Justus . Contactați -l pentru următoarele :

    ( 1 ) În cazul în care doriți ex-vă înapoi .
    ( 2 ), dacă aveți mereu vise rele .
    ( 3 ) Vrei sa fie promovat în biroul dumneavoastră .
    ( 4 ) Vrei femei / bărbați pentru a rula după tine .
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    ( 6 ) [ Vrei să fii bogat .
    ( 7 ) Vrei pentru a lega soțul / soția să fie a ta pentru totdeauna .
    ( 8 ) În cazul în care aveți nevoie de asistență financiară .
    ( 9 ) de îngrijire pe bază de plante
    10 ) Ajutor aducerea de oameni din închisoare
    ( 11 ) vrăji casatorie
    ( 12 ) vrăji Miracle
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    ( 14 ) profeție CHARM
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    ( 16 ) vrăji ochiul rău
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    ( 18 ) Eliminare vrăji de boală
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    Contactați -l astăzi pe :
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  • Oneluckygal

    I adore my husband Eric. He is my rock, my lover, my friend, my everything! I knew I’ve loved him before but Our loved grew even stronger when I got seriously ill. We left cute notes such as The Top 10 Reasons I Love you. The list included making coffe to picking dog doo. He got a good laugh. We also created a box full of papers with things we like to do for each other, and with each other. Every Sunday we pull a paper and do what it says. The activities included playing Wi, go to movies, go for walks, read to each other, etc. We didnt know how much time we had left together but we made sure we adore our marriage, each other and every moment we spent together! Love!

  • Gail

    #7–Adore him with reverence as you would/SHOULD(!) Christ. Just as Christ makes us complete in Him, our husband make us “complete” in a marriage and family unit. Realize that he is only “on loan” from the Lord. Just think if you knew you were going to lose him on a certain day. (*If your husband as ever been in a bad accident or went through cancer, etc., you will understand this part better.)

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  • Becky Jones

    My name is Rusty Kate, from UK I never believed in
    love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to
    Africa in July this year on a business summit. i ment a man called Dr.
    OGUDO.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my
    love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring
    back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now
    happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me
    3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our
    relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother
    was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell
    caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things
    to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave
    it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to New York, my boyfriend (is
    now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that
    everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new
    job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the
    spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i
    wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting
    our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became
    much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email drogudospelltemple@gmail.com you can see what he can do and i belive that he can do so four you tooo

  • Becky Jones

    My name is Rusty Kate, from UK I never believed in
    love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to
    Africa in July this year on a business summit. i ment a man called Dr.
    OGUDO.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my
    love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring
    back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now
    happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me
    3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our
    relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother
    was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell
    caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things
    to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave
    it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to New York, my boyfriend (is
    now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that
    everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new
    job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the
    spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i
    wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting
    our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became
    much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email drogudospelltemple@gmail.com

  • Becky Jones

    My name is Rusty Kate, from UK I never believed in love spells or magic
    until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in July this
    year on a business summit. i ment a man called Dr. OGUDO.He is powerful
    he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving
    lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic
    money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living
    testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our
    wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for
    2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had
    no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what
    happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was
    undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6
    days when i returned to New York, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he
    called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been
    settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we
    should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked
    for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we
    are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my
    husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case
    anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email
    drogudospelltemple@gmail.com you can see what he can do and i belive
    that he can do so four you tooo

  • Carolen Andrew

    I want to thank Dr.Agbazara for his job in my family, this is man who left me and the kids for another woman without any good reasons, i was pain and confuse,till one day when i was browsing through the internet with my computer then i saw Dr.Agbazara contact, then i contaced him and he help me cast a reunion spell, since I then the situation has changed, everything is moving well, my husband who left me is now back to his family. reach DR.AGBAZARA TEMPLE via email if you have any relationship problem at:

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  • Johnson Dsouza Mercy

    MY LIFE IS BACK , I am williams Joy by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(4) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address idialuspelltemple@gmail.com, have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for Dr idialu. His email: idialuspelltemple@gmail.com

  • Teresitak

    By cooking for him! My husband loves my cooking and appreciates it so much.

  • Debora Siland-Aboikoni

    In this new year I took it upon myself to massage His legs and feet, when He is fast asleep, I told Him and He said that he felt the difference when He was at work He’s a builder and has to stand a lot, He loves it when i massage His legs and now when we go to bed I always massage them, but the funny part is I love to do it!!! And He is so grateful, He constantly thanks me for The massages sometimes three time a day He says thank you!!! Crazy right!!! this is one of the many things I plan to do for Him to make Him feel adored by Me, ’cause i can be pretty bossy and act spoiled sometimes

  • happywife

    I adore my husband so much , and I have four wonderful step children ,we have a small mowing and cleaning business and we worked together everyday. I love everything my husband does and I tell him too– number “4 is the one where I have to remember not to jump in and speak too soon

  • MARE

    Greetings to everyone,i want to use this medium to thank the great spell caster called Dr Padman who helped to restored my relationship back to me,it happened that my ex lover decided to break up with me without any reason,saying that he don’t love me anymore,this started to happen when my ex lover started keeping late night,and coming home late,i pleaded to him for several months but he refused to listen to my apology,so one faithful day i was browsing through the internet and i suddenly came across several testimonies of how Dr Padman helped so many people in bringing back their ex lover,so without wasting much time i contacted his https://padmanspell.com he told me that i shouldn’t worry anymore that he must return back to me after he has cast a love spell for me that he will surely run back to me,i didn’t doubt his words i obeyed his instruction and indeed after 24 hours my ex lover rush back to me and everything went back as it was in the beginning contact him today on his padmanlovespell@yahoo.com , https://twitter.com/padman_dr. https://padmanspell.com WhatsApp +19492293867