5 Quick Ways to Revive Those Butterflies

I love every time Paula writes a post for this site.  She loves her hubby, adores her babies and is working daily to create her happily ever after.

Her post reminded me of something I haven’t done in several months…add to my Why I Love My Husband Never-Ending List.  Thanks, Paula!  I think I’ll get started on that again.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Have you ever been told that, the butterflies that you felt in the the beginning stages of your relationship, will disappear when a marriage has fully matured?

That the butterflies will fly away, as they are replaced with things like deeper trust and maturity.

I’ve heard this many times before and although I disagree, I can understand where this thought process is coming from; relationships do evolve.

My heart doesn’t always stop when my hand unintentionally brushes my husband’s throughout the day.  When I hear his voice, my stomach doesn’t always leap into my chest, the way it once did.

Things are different now, and being together can start to seem ordinary instead of exciting.

But I still believe in butterflies. 

The butterflies are always there. But sometimes, you have to work to make them flutter.

So, how do you get the butterflies going, even after years of marriage?  It’s easier than you might think.  Here are 5 quick ways to revive those butterflies!

1. Listen to Your Favorite Love Song – Songs can move our emotions like nothing else.  They transport us into a time and space long ago and bring the feelings forward to the present moment.  So turn down the lights and enjoy your favorite song together. Let the memories overtake you, and watch the butterflies do their thing.

2. Dress Up and Go Out – There is something special about getting all fancied up and spending a care-free night out of the house together.  (psssst….here are a few ways to save money on date night)

3. Kiss -I mean really kiss! *wink wink*  15 seconds a day can change your marriage…no really.

4. Find Joy in the Ordinary - This is a lesson I’m still learning.  Taking the time to notice all the tiny but wonderful things your spouse does every day. There are a thousand tiny reasons you fell in love with him, take the time to see those things in your everyday life, and those butterflies will go crazy!

5. Make a List – Do you remember when Fawn started the Never-ending “Why I love my husband list“? I loved that idea then, and I still love it now! Take time to sit down and write out all the fabulous, cute and sweet things you love about your hubby. It’s virtually impossible not to feel butterflies when you do this!
   

After a few years, it can take some effort to get the butterflies going again, but it is totally worth it! Maturity does not have to mean lack of flirtatious fun and butterflies! That sweet, giddy feeling can last a lifetime, if we are willing to put in the extra effort to keep having fun and falling in love every day! 

QUESTION: So what about you? What makes your butterflies flutter? 

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Paula Rollo

Paula Rollo: Paula & her hubby have been happily married for 4 years. They decided to tie the knot after knowing each other for just 35 days! They now have 2 rambunctious kiddos known as Little Man (2) and The Princess (7 mos). The family resides in Texas in a small but lively apartment. Paula and her hubby love to play board games, take long walks with the kids and they both LOVE the Texas heat! Paula also has a passion for writing. Her compositions have been featured many places around the web, including her own blog Beauty Through Imperfection where she writes about motherhood and strives to be an encourager through her writing.

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