What Are You Thankful For?

A yellow baby room sits empty in a corner of our home. We began designing it while in the process of adopting a child being born to a mom with three children already, the youngest just a few months old, and no means to take care of them.

We decided to adopt after some time of trying to conceive on our own and had been successfully matched with a birth mom. But as is the case with most looking to adopt, the first try was a bust and we decided not to try again. At least not at this time.

We recognize we waited until we were older in years to begin working on children (in spite of a nudging from my doc to get started several years earlier). But we were thoroughly enjoying our marriage and weren’t quite ready for the change that occurs when parenthood is on the horizon. So we waited. Possibly too long…only time will tell.

But as I look at the empty Jazmine-colored room with plush carpet we chose so our child could comfortably play on the ground with mommy and daddy, a room with one rocking chair, one reading chair and a space for the crib that leans against a wall in the garage unassembled, all I can think of is gratefulness and thankfulness.

When Keith and I married 8 years ago, I was ready to have a baby right away. But he wanted us to wait at least a year or two to get settled into marriage and to learn as much about each other as we possibly could. He wanted us to be able to focus on each other, travel a bit, and just have “us” time before we expanded our family. At first I was reluctant, then I relented, and then I fully embraced the new plan.

I embraced it so much, I forgot to think about it for years. We began living our life to the fullest and enjoying our marriage beyond a place I never knew possible. Around our 6th year of marriage, we decided to give it a whirl and work on conceiving a child.

Two years later, the baby room remains empty and I continue to be one of the happiest people I’ve ever known. I have no void in my life. I do not feel as though anything is missing. I can say, with all honesty and transparency, if we got pregnant tomorrow I’d be over-the-moon excited. But if we never have a child, I’ll still be the happiest wife on the block.

So this week, as I am thinking about all I am grateful for in my life, at the very top of the list must be the joy that overflows inside of me trusting God knows my life plan far better than I do and He knows why our family remains “just the two of us” (I love that song).

I am thankful beyond word or measure for a husband who accepts me flaws and all, loves me more than any person I’ve ever known, and inspires me daily to be the best Fawn I can be. I am thankful that without a word spoken, and with just the touch of his hand, I can feel how much I am loved.

This week, I stand in awe of this life I live and am thankful for every breath I’m granted.

Rather than blogging each day this week, as I usually would, I’d prefer to hear from you. What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving week? What are you grateful for in your life? Leave your comments here and rather than people reading my words all week, they’ll read yours.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. Until Monday…make it a great week!

Fawn

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Fawn Weaver

Founder at Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).