Marriage Mondays: Boost Your Marriage in 10 Minutes or Less

Want to give your marriage an extra boost? Looking for that special thing that will make you fall in love with your spouse over and over again?

Like drinking a can of Monster or Red Bull for an immediate pick-me-up, in less than 10 minutes, this one simple thing will spur 5 immediate results:

Put a genuine smile on your face…immediately.
Make you fall deeper in love with your husband daily.
Boost your husband’s day (and life).
Cause you to make new discoveries in your relationship.
Give you a greater appreciation for your chosen partner in this life.

So what is this instant shot in the arm that will do all these things in less than 10 minutes, you ask? Begin creating a list.

Sounds too simple, I know. But I’m not talking about any ole’ list. This list is more important than your grocery, to-do, homework or Honey-do lists. It’s the Why I Love My Husband (never-ending list).

Last year, I began writing down all the reasons I love Keith. Shortly after beginning my list, I made two discoveries: 1) There was so much he did for me every day that would otherwise go unnoticed; and 2) Searching my heart and memory for all the reasons I adore and cherish him brought me greater joy than I could imagine. It caused me to fall in love with him over and over, every single day of the week.

Often times, especially after being married for many years, we unwittingly take for granted many of the things our spouse does on a regularly basis. We fail to say thank you as often as we would with a complete stranger. What I noticed when I began compiling this list is that changed instantaneously.

Here’s how you do it. Begin with the big items (“he’s my best friend,” “loves me exactly the way I am,” “man of integrity and great character”) and move on to the more specific (“he opened the door for me on our date tonight,” “he picked up my favorite apple at the grocery store today”).

If you have a smart phone (I have it on my iPhone), you can open your notepad app and begin the list. When you’re with your husband, look for the little things he does that are kind and special and make a point to write those things down (or type them into your phone notepad). Pay special attention to every time he goes without something he wants to ensure you have what you desire in that moment.

Keeping a list will cause you to appreciate your spouse more. And showing him your list will lift his spirits and make him feel more respected and appreciated.

I’ve watched many women improve their marriages by consistently doing this one simple thing. It’s not because their spouse began doing anything different. It’s because they began looking for all the things he was already doing right.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver

Founder at Happy Wives Club

Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).